Have you been interested in dating younger women, but just don’t know how to? Dating younger women does not have to be intimidating or taboo if you understand what they need and know how to date them. After all, age is just a number. Let’s be real – younger women can be extremely attractive and you may think to yourself, “Do they think an older man like me is even attractive or appealing”?’ The truth is, “yes”, they do. Being older can definitely work in your favor. And who knows, you may even find yourself with the love of your life 20 years younger than you! A lot of younger women actually look for older men because they presume, they are more emotionally mature and this is what attractions women emotionally. However it’s definitely important to know how to date younger women because it can pose its own unique challenges, and that’s what you’re here for. Welcome to dating younger women 101.
Dating a younger girl
Dating a younger girl can be very different from dating a woman in your own age range. While it might seem that dating someone around your age, whose experiences might mirror yours, is easier, dating a younger woman can have many unique advantages. Firstly, when you start to date a younger girl, find out where she’s at in her life. She could know exactly what she wants to do with her career, or she could still be figuring it all out. Admit it, you’ve been there too. If you’re dating someone between the age of 18-25, imagine all the life changes you had in those years of your own life and be aware that she may be going through similar changes. You don’t have to force your priorities to match up with hers. They may not because you’re at completely different points in your lives, and that’s okay. You can avoid pressuring her into things if you know exactly where she’s at in her life from the beginning of the relationship. The red flag that I would suggest for you to be aware of is, when a woman is not interested in learning or focusing on her personal growth. Some younger women just want to have fun and if you are looking for just fun then go ahead. But if it’s a relationship you’re after, you have to make sure that the younger woman is wanting the same thing as you.
Even if she is young, she could be a mature old soul at the age of 50 inside, or she could be a youthful spirit still figuring out her own likes and dislikes. Perhaps she’s had many long term relationships already, or maybe she’s only dated off and on. When dating younger women, try to find out at what stage of her life she’s in and what she might want or need from you as her partner.
Because the age gap is a big one between you two, it’s also really important to take it slow. In games of love and life, slow and steady always wins the race. Take the time to get to know her, understand what makes her tick, and find out what she’s looking for in a relationship. Don’t make quick moves on her – remember, especially because you’re older, that might make her uneasy. She may think your intentions are dishonest or that you’re trying to take advantage of her because she’s young. If you make the moves on her too fast, she might run off. Remember, slow and steady wins the race! Don’t push a relationship as you will know when a woman wants this.
Dating younger women definitely also involves keeping up with them. Keep her engaged, because she’ll definitely keep you on your toes! Young women like to have fun and experience new things, even if you’ve experienced this all before. Not interested in going to that club you used to go to ten years ago? Don’t feel like going on a strenuous long hike with her? Give it a shot, it won’t kill you. Dating a younger woman can challenge you to try new things and force yourself to go outside your comfort zone. In fact, research shows that older men who date younger women tend to be healthier and live longer — go figure! So if you try out things that engage her, maybe you’ll presently surprise yourself too.
Lastly, be receptive and open to the things she’s interested in. If you’re not open-minded, you may find that she’ll lose interest in you very quickly. You’ll find yourself in a game of cat and mouse, where she constantly makes you chase her, and you’ll lose sight of the relationship completely. Don’t fall into that trap — adapt to her and involve yourself in her interests.
How to date a younger woman
Be mature! Younger women are attracted to a mature man, let’s be honest, it’s the reason she wanted to date an older man in the first place. She’s probably not particularly interested in men her age because they don’t know themselves well and play stupid games, like texting them late at night for booty calls or completely ghosting them. That being said, prove her right and show her that you know what you want. Be in touch with her consistently and don’t send mixed signals or not take her seriously just because she’s young. Don’t be afraid to be honest, and slowly let your feelings show as she shows hers for you. Your honesty is mature – and that’s sexy. There’s nothing sexier than a man that knows himself, is assertive, and isn’t afraid to show his feelings. Being honest with yourself and with her will benefit both of you in the long run.
Part of you being mature is letting her spread her wings and fly a little bit. Acknowledge the fact that because she’s younger, she has strong desires to try new things and fulfill her own curiosities. Don’t try to tell her what to do just because you’re older; she already has a father figure in her life,(possibly) and she probably doesn’t want her boyfriend to be one either. Your support of letting her fulfill her desires will be attractive to her, and your awareness of her needs will make you wise beyond your years – literally speaking, that is.
So, let’s review and add some new points for some easy tips for you to remember when dating a younger woman, and you’ll be off to some happy dating in no time!
5 Tips for dating a younger woman
Tip# 1: Don’t be immature
This is something for dating across the spectrum, but especially for dating younger women. They’re interested in older men particularly because they have maturity and experience. Don’t be inconsistent in your communication or not take her out on proper dates. Court her, show her that you’re a man that knows what he’s doing. If you’re not interested in a long term relationship, be clear about it. Younger women want a man that knows himself. Take her seriously, act maturely, and treat her with respect. Sometimes I’ve seen men belittle women because they’re young so be careful here. Also, sometimes this happens because a woman might not be very respectful at times or test you from time to time. Don’t be afraid to stand your ground and put her back into her place in a respectful manner. And don’t try to fit in with her crowd or her age group – just be yourself.
Tip# 2: Show her a good time and excitement
Engage her interests and excite her! Take her to a show, a new restaurant, cook with her. Be creative and think about fun things you could do with her. Be open-minded and receptive to her interests and ideas, even if you are thinking to yourself ‘been there, done that’ or ‘I’m too old for this.’ Maybe with her things are different or you’ll see life in a different way, so allow yourself to be spontaneous. If you show her a good time, most likely you’ll show yourself a good time too. Be bold enough to show her you have your act together, and young enough to still want to have fun and enjoy life’s thrills. Dating doesn’t have to be so serious.
Tip# 3: Don’t try to buy her
Younger women are not dating older men because they want a sugar daddy, contrary to popular belief. You don’t have to impress her by buying her things to try to keep her by your side – if anything that shows insecurity. Showing her a good time, listening to her, and being open-minded to new activities is much more powerful than buying her love with money.
You may be thinking to herself, “Well, doesn’t she also like me because I have financial security because I’m older?” That may be so, and it’s nice to have a boyfriend who is financially secure, but that’s only one result of having your act together. Younger women like to be with older men because they’re secure in their life in general, at least much more so than a young guy. That’s enough for them. You don’t need to flash around your money – that will definitely make her feel uncomfortable. She will want to feel like she can contribute also to the relationship in some way, and if you make her feel like she can’t because she’s a) too young and b) doesn’t have a good job, that’ll make her feel way worse. Use your money with her with intelligence and not as a power tool or a way of showing yourself to be an amazing boyfriend. Don’t assume that she can’t take care of herself just because she’s young.
Tip# 4: Show her something different. Don’t be afraid to take the lead.
Be adventurous with the dates you take her on and share your own experience of the world. You have more years on her, so show her some interesting things you’ve discovered or never seen before. Take her outside of her comfort zone too and challenge her! You can feel comfortable to be especially assertive and she’ll want you to take the lead, so don’t be afraid to do it. When you walk into a restaurant with her, make your presence known – find the hostess, tell her about the reservation you made (because you’ve already taken the lead and planned in advance), and show her to the table. Take her to something unusual, like ax throwing or an interesting theater show. Impress her with your perceptiveness and your ability to take control and make plans yourself. That will show her that you have the potential to be an incredible partner.
Tip# 5: Initiate
Finally, don’t be afraid to initiate. A younger woman likes being with an older man precisely because they know how to take control. They’re sick of dating timid young guys that don’t know what they’re doing on dates or in the bedroom. You’ve got the experience, so show it. She’ll find your ability to take control of a situation refreshed and confidence, and will definitely want to see and hear from you more. Lure her in with your strong sense of self and fearlessness.
Men dating younger women
Understanding that women choose to be with younger men of presence they bring to the relationship. Women crave a man that can make them feel safe and give them access to resources. That does not mean money that means sustainability. Women are wired to make sure they make the best decision for themselves and future offspring. Even if they don’t want to have kids. If you think about history for a moment and think about why a man and woman were created one was masculine and one was feminine. More than ever these days men are becoming more feminine by becoming passive so women are drawn to men who aren’t. The ones that know themselves and the ones that are grounded and stable with life and understanding manhood. I do think that this is something that is not talked about enough so that’s why I travel the world and do intense Bootcamps with men. If you’re interested in signing up for one of my bootcamps I encourage you to click this link here.
Now, go and win that younger woman’s heart! Don’t be afraid to approach her either!
Apollonia Ponti, an international certified coach and founder of apolloniaponti.com. She works with men to attract the woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and helps rebuild relationships.
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