What Women Want in a Man: 15 Traits Women are Looking for in a Man Right Now

Are you having a difficult time attracting the girl you are desiring right now?

I can help you with this. I am going to show you 15 Sexy things you can start doing right now, that women find IRRESISTIBLE and this will instantly turn on the girl you are desiring!

You may be doing something pretty sexy right now and you probably don’t even know it.

I did a conductive study recently where I interviewed 50 women from the ages of 20 – 50.
I asked all of them, “What are the sexiest things that you ladies find attractive about men, and what do they do that captures your attention?”

The women I interviewed answered my questions for you and I’m here to give you the results!
Below are the top 15 sexy things to start getting the girl of your dreams!

What do women want in a man when they first meet him…

#1 Having a warm, genuine smile.

There’s a difference between a perfect smile and a genuine smile.
But guys, I will be honest, hygiene is very important. Get a little teeth whitening, floss your teeth, get a little cleaned up, do your thing, but this goes a long way.

Now, there’s a difference between a nice smile and a genuine smile. A genuine smile is energy behind that person. So, if you’re a good man and you have a genuine presence about you and you sit back and you just smile, oh, this is really sexy.

#2 He knows how to tell a good story and get you engaged.

This is a good one. When you tell stories about a specific situation or maybe even your personal life, and you take her through the story and get you engaged in it, this actually does captivate a woman’s attention and get her fonder, and she finds this pretty sexy.

#3 You’re relaxed and you have a chill composure.

I love this one. There’s nothing sexier than a man that has a composure about him that he’s relaxed and calm within himself.

#4 You take care of your fingernails.

This was on the top of the list for the 50 women that I interviewed. I think about 35 or 38 of them had mentioned this. So, guys, take notes here, women take care of their fingernails and you should too!

I’m guilty as charged, this is something I look for in a man. Your nails don’t have to be perfect and polished! Lol But what I am saying is, if there’s a lot of dirt under the fingernails, clean them out and possibly get a manicure from time to time. (if this is something that you would like to get better at)

#5 You’re great with kids.

Women love a man that is really great with kids, even if she doesn’t want kids of her own. She still finds this attractive because there’s a nurturing element to a man that women do love, and this is part of it.

Tip #6 You wear tailored jeans or suits.

This is a good one. This is something that I find very attractive and very sexy as well because this shows that a man knows how to take care of himself. When women see a man that takes care of himself, just like you see a woman that takes care of herself, there’s something attractive, and there’s something to be seen about that!

What women like to see men doing that attracts her!

Here I’m going to tell you what attracts some women to men when they see them out in the community or how they respond to life and their goals. This part is very important because not only does it help you as a person but it also helps you get better with being present and knowing more about yourself that you set the right standards for your life and the women around you.

Tip #1 Giving back to the community or having a passion that helps people.

This is a huge, huge thing for women because it also shows a part of dominance in a way. A nurturing dominance, which is really, really important in relationships.

Tip #2 Having and Owning Your Story

Everyone has a story. Where you come from where you grew up.
Anyone can have a story, but when you actually own your story, man that is sexy!
There’s a difference between a man coming from a lack of a story, meaning, that he doubts himself because of the things and how he was raised and XYZ happened in life. But instead, takes that story and looks at it as he’s empowered by it and delivers it with that message.

Tip #3 You seek growth and personal development.

You never stop learning, you are always growing and bettering yourself. Women love this!
You can do this by investing in courses or masterminds or seminars. What I’ve noticed is that there comes a time and a place where you will want to succeed in all areas of your life. When a person or a woman can see this it elevates your confidence and potential to find and attract the right partner. Why you may ask? Because you get more aligned with what you may want and also stop attracting the relationships that don’t necessarily serve you.

The biggest part of personal development is that you understand your patterns and you have a choice to also make better ones if they haven’t always turned out the best for you.

6 Things women want in a man when they are attracted to them!

What helps couples continue to ignite attraction towards one another but remember all of these tips that I am sharing in this blog all have to do with attraction and can be used from the day that you both meet. These traits are just setting you up to be quality in your own eyes first and then a woman will see this once you see it in yourself first! 🙂

Tip#1 You love your family.

You love your family, friends, or people, and you treat them with respect and gratitude.

I’m going to tell you that when I was first starting to date this one guy many years ago, he would pick me up and we would go to a restaurant and he parked his car at the valet.

I would always observe the way he engaged with the server and the valet driver. If I saw him treating the server and the valet with respect and was courteous to them, it was something I really liked. I’d even sometimes look to see how much he tipped because that goes a long way because there’s no connection to that person besides parking your car or serving you. So, this is how you can really see how someone contributes to other people. Pay attention to the small details!

Tip #2 Stop complaining about simple things.

You literally take the higher route. This means you don’t engage in gossip. If you hear someone talking about someone else you sit there and don’t engage at all and you try to change the subject. This is a really attractive thing, especially in a group setting. This is something that one of the girls I had interviewed said was one of the best qualities that she was really attracted to when it came to her boyfriend.

Tip #3 This is a funny one. This is a really big one, actually. Ready, guys?

You pour wine for your lady or cook for her as well. That was so funny, but it is very attractive for a man to take out a glass of wine and just pour it for a woman so she can indulge in your nice glass of wine, especially after a long day of work.

Tip #4 Speak confidently with your eyes.

They say eyes are the windows to the soul! You don’t even have to speak with your mouth, but you can actually just enjoy that moment of silence, and your eyes can tell her everything.

Tip #5 Grab her by the waist!

When you guys have a connection, one of the things that women love and I adore as well is when my person, my man can literally just grab me and just hold me and really grab me by the waist in public settings or anything like that, and this is something that women love. And lastly, it has something to do with this.

Tip #6 Protect Her

One of the biggest things that I have heard women tell me, especially from their first dates with guys, is a woman loves to feel protected.

Let me give you a perfect example of this.

If you are walking on the sidewalk of the road and a woman is walking in the street where the traffic is and the man actually goes to her and switches places with her.

So now the woman is on the sidewalk away from the incoming traffic and the man is the one on the roadside where the traffic is. It’s a very, very sexy thing for a man to do.

Guys, I’m telling you right now, you will score some major bonus points if you do this.
A woman loves to feel that she is put first and protected.

If you want help in regards to attracting women and getting better with women, I would encourage you to sign up for my Alpha Magnet free training by clicking here.

As always, I welcome you to comment on this blog post and like this button and it with a friend that might need to know.

Remember, you are always loved

Your Coach,

Apollonia Ponti

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  1. Wow! This is amazing.
    It’s now that I know that the little things we don’t think of is what counts in being attractive to women.
    Thanks Apollonia!
    I really appreciate your work

    1. Hey Kingsley,
      Thank you so much! I’m so happy you enjoyed What Women Want in a Man.
      -Team Apollonia

  2. Thanks as always for sharing Apollonia. What comes to mind in this reading is if the correlation if any having an established connection with a woman before she shows you that she is attracted?

  3. Thank-you Apollonia for this information. It’s all logical and makes total sense. I can honestly state that every single one of these traits I can confirm happened in my six week relationship….and I got friend zoned. She went there cause in my mind anyhow, she….? well I think that she does not want to be in the friend zone, but something happened, which I’m at a total loss to figure out at this point. I did something to put myself there for which I have as yet to figure out. I’m working with Natalie to hopefully get out of this friend zone….

    1. Hey David, Thank you for sharing a bit of your experiences. I hope to hear more of your progress with Natalie in the future!
      -Team Apollonia

  4. Thank you for these tips. I identified a few that I havent thought of before, like being able to tell a story. This would be the most difficult for me because I naturally dont like to be the center of attention, and would probably rush the story to get it over with so the other person could start talking again. I am definitely a better listener then talker. I will do the whitening of the teeth and look into tailoring my Jean’s as well. Thank you again Appolonia, I listen attentively to your advice , and always discover something new.

    1. Hey Joey, I’m glad you enjoyed What Women Want in a Man and took some pointers and thank you for being an active follower of our blog. Best of luck!
      -Team Apollonia

  5. Wow this has just made me realize that I’m actually sexy. Thanks Apollonia for highlighting all the points

  6. Once again, Apollonia, a guy has to jump through a zillion different hoops in the faint hope that a woman might be mildly interested. What does a woman have to do other than just showup???

    1. Hi Nicolas,
      Thank you so much for this comment. I’m so happy to know this has helped.

  7. Personally, the “6 Things women want in a man when they are attracted to them” are all things I do or could do naturally, most everything else on this list… could use a little work. Thanks for the tips 👍

    1. Hi Matthew,
      Thanks for commenting on my blog about what women want in a man. 🙂 Wishing you the very best!

  8. I definitely agree that having a story to tell her as well as listening to her story are very important.
    Before I could tell a story, I wasn’t able to date a lot of women, but once I’ve got the hang of it, I got more dates with women who I thought was out of my league.
    I also discovered that being natural and making her laugh can be pretty useful to get her out on a date. Since I’m a blogger, I recently published a piece of it on my blog. Feel free to check it out. Once again thanks for your tips, Apollonia. Keep up the good work!

  9. Thanks. I am incapable of being or feeling sexy because I am not and cannot be sexually attractive. It makes zero difference what I look like, how much I work out, what I eat, what I wear, how many hobbies I have or how often I go out. People say that going to the gym makes a person feel attractive. It doesn’t – it makes me feel physically in shape and less tired, but it certainly has no effect on the fact that I am fundamentally unattractive from a sexual perspective. I know no woman will ever see me other than as a friend because I do not have whatever it is that makes other guys attractive to women in a sexual way. The fact is, any attempt to “flirt” (whatever that is – I have read a lot about it but none of it makes any sense to me) with any woman would be disastrous and as such there is no point in trying.

  10. No matter how I try to express interest in a woman I am attracted to, as an ugly man, the “truth” is I could very well be accused. This is because harassment is what is unwanted; a comment, gaze, being asked out. In our politically correct society, the reality is, talking to women is harassment if you don’t have the looks to pull it off. If an attractive woman is near me and I try to talk to her – even following all the ‘rules’ about being respectful and polite, etc, the woman could accuse me of harassment since she didn’t want my attention. As an ugly man, I am at my top utility as an Instagram follower, helping her score the number, but, of course, she wouldn’t want to be seen with me. Please realize that we live in very materialistic societies and by showing interest in her, I am, killing her chances in hypergamy. The is clear and simple – as an ugly man, I have no option except to never show interest in any woman unless I want to court {literally) a harassment accusation.

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