You’ve been questioning yourself lately, right? “Am I important to her or not?” “She used to be so much more into me,” “I don’t want to lose her!,” “Will she break up with me?” “How do I get her to want me more?” Perhaps you have even hit a plateau and you’re unsure, and it’s like you’re not progressing to the next level in the relationship. You two might not even be in a relationship yet! She might not be giving you any signs that she really wants to commit to you right now, but you want her to miss you and crave having you around, and you want to master attraction in order to make her want you more.

Well, the good news is that you’ve come to the right place! This article is going to break everything down on how to make her miss you. So it’s important that you read till the very end. By the way, I love hearing from you so please share any questions or comments below and I will personally answer them.

Make Her Miss You: Here’s the Key!

First things first! I don’t want you to think that this is the end of it. If you think that this is the end of it then you have set yourself up to lose already. Mindset is everything in attraction and in life. If you dwell in the mindset that this is the end, you will attract this with your energy and this is exactly what it will end up happening. What I do want you to do, is not only read this blog, but to continue reading my blogs about how to attract women, and how to become an attractive man in order to become more magnetic. You will be sure to get results!

“Apollonia, how do I get this woman to miss me?” Well, the reason why she does not miss you right now is that the attraction was killed. You have to reignite attraction and light her fire again!

Keep in mind that you have to sometimes walk a cold brisk walk before you start making the flame grow and warm up. In other words, distance is what is going to help you get her to miss you.

Let me guess… Perhaps you did the exact opposite because you’ve been thinking, “Well, if I give her distance then she will fall for someone else.” Again, if you think this then you’re accepting to lose! So stop that. 🙂 You have to get her to want you! You have to draw her in and maintain the mystery. You have to be the man that she desires that’s decisive, unapologetically honest, and is empowered with life and himself. If you really want to know how to get a girl to want you and miss you when you’re not around, THIS will get her thinking about you!

Alright, so let’s talk about what to do moving forward. I always talk about how the feeling of missing someone enhances the sense of mystery. This is the key to getting this woman to miss you because mystery builds curiosity, and you want her to think of you in a different way.

At this moment, she might have complete control and know that you want her. So, all she has to do is pick up the phone and say, “OK, I want to be with you” and you will automatically say YES! Right? Well, this is going to change. Mystery is great and exciting in every way; especially when it comes to courting, dating, and even being in a relationship. But these all happen in different stages.

There is a difference between being a little mysterious and just hiding things from your partner. So I do not mean that you have to be dishonest, but keep things fun. Keep things enticing. Keep things mysterious so both of you can feel the attraction no matter what when you are in the dating phase. This is what makes someone crave your company and miss you when you’re not around.

6 Tips on How To Make Her Miss You and Want You More!

If you find yourself wanting this woman more than she wants you, then these are the tips you’ve been waiting for that will make her want you more. If you want to know more about each tip- continue to read below!

  1. Set a goal
  2. Make her miss you by posting on social media
  3. Cut off contact for a while
  4. Be aware of your emotions when you want someone to miss you
  5. Have the right mindset
  6. Don’t fake it, make genuine change

How to make her want you and miss you: Set a goal

: Right now, you are going to entertain yourself by trying out and doing something you’ve been wanting to do for a long time! You are going to invest some time into something you’re passionate about or book a trip somewhere new. If you’ve been wanting to learn how to play the guitar, now is the time to take some guitar lessons. Women are attracted to a man that is determined to do things he likes. She will start to see that you are investing in yourself and not spending all your time focusing on her which will build attraction. On top of that, it makes you look like an exciting challenge to her.
You might be thinking, Well how will she know what I’ve been doing if she isn’t talking to me?”

Oh, she will. She will reach out to you and this is how you can showcase change when you’re talking about what you are up to. But that’s not all. Following more of these tips will grab her attention and entice her to reach out to you!

Make Her Miss You by Posting on Social Media

Start posting a bit more on social media platforms. You want to show the new things that you are up to here and there. So if you follow the first tip, then post some nice photos of you doing just these new activities. Next, you want to post some photos with friends and family every once in a while to show that you are happy and joyful.

What you don’t want to do is post quotes and memes about feeling depressed or sad and think it will make her want you. It will get her attention but not in a good way. You want to show her that you are focusing on bettering yourself and that you are 100% focused on you. You are changing your behaviors and patterns.

I Miss You: The Power of No Contact

This is where a lot of people lose focus and they don’t know what to do moving forward. This can be the hardest part. I want to remind you that just because you take distance, it does not mean that you will lose this person. You have to remember that in dating and relationships, you are still your own individual and you have to look out for your best interests.

If this woman was taking over your emotions and you were letting your emotions ride on her behaviors, then it’s time to do a self-analysis during this no contact period. Remember, just because she reaches out once does not mean that you have to respond immediately.

Be Aware of Your Emotions When You Want Someone to Miss You

When you start to focus on why you feel a certain way and why your happiness might be dependent on another, then this is when you start to zero in on the root of what is causing this. This will help you become more aware of yourself and your emotions. This is a process and it requires work, but this is how you grow. This will help you to become more in control of these things when you see her again and helps you pace yourself. You don’t want to dive in right away just because she wants to see you for coffee. Remember, the key is to change your approach and demeanor towards her.

Mindset When You’re thinking “I miss my girlfriend”

This is one of the biggest tips of them all! A lot of times, we listen to the daily negative thoughts that come into our minds because this is what we’ve taught ourselves to focus on. So like I said, if you think negatively about this situation, you are already setting yourself up to lose. Basically, you already lost! Women want a man with an abundance mindset; not a mindset of lack, or scarcity. This won’t attract us, so start becoming aware of the inner dialogue you have with yourself during this time!

Trust Me, You Can’t Fake It

You can’t fake it, right? You really have to change the behaviors that influence the relationship for her to either push you away or for you to make her miss you. You don’t want to fake it, because, at the end of the day, you have to change your behaviors as I stated at the beginning of this blog. Growth is the ultimate element in attraction.

How To Make A Girl Miss You: What It Boils Down To!

The reason why you’re hoping this girl will miss you is often because of the fact that you’ve killed the attraction between you. So now it’s hard for her to see you in that light. You have to influence, and you have to change any behaviors that have influenced this activity. Think about your own actions. For example, were you too attentive? Were you too available? Were you too pushy? Were you too needy? Did you come on too strong? What were the things that you did that didn’t work, and you have to do exactly the opposite. You really have to get clear on that. So ask yourself these questions. Once you change your behavior, here is how the woman starts to think.

“Why is he not paying attention to me?” “Why is he acting differently?” “Is he thinking about me?” “Is he dating someone else now?”

Now, following in line with this, I want to mention that you should not accept all invitations from her. Okay. When you start doing this, she’s going to start missing you, because, as I said at the beginning of the blog, missing someone is enhanced by mystery. There’s a mystery involved when you take her off that pedestal.

The first thing that you cannot do is this. When she invites you to do something or wants to know what you’re doing, do not come out and tell her 100% of what it is that you’re doing. Don’t jump in with excitement and say things like… “Would you like to see me on Saturday?” “Oh, my God, I haven’t heard from you in a long time.” “So happy you are contacting me” or “I missed you!”

If you do this it will kill a month’s worth of mystery.

Instead, let me give you some text examples on how you respond when this does happen.
She’s asking how you’re doing so you go, “I’m doing great, there are a lot of really great things going on. Thanks for asking.” Closed-ended.

Let her respond again, “Oh, so what you been up to? I’ve been seeing all these Facebook posts of you and the ski lodge. Who are you with?”

“Oh, I’m just with some friends, and yeah, I’ve just been out here doing my thing, really enjoying it. Thanks so much for checking in.”

Again, closed-ended. Mystery, mystery, and mystery!

A lot of men think, “Oh, my God, Apollonia, how can I do this? She’s finally reaching out to me. She’s never going to reach out to me again if I do this. I’m just pushing her away.” No, you’re not, okay? Calm those voices down. Remember, the mindset is the key point in one of the tips we’ve mentioned. What I’m saying is exactly what you need to do, because when you do the opposite of what she expects and she reaches out to you after you’ve done this whole mystery thing, worked on yourself, and released attachments or neediness towards her, and then all of a sudden she texts you and you’re immediate at her beck and call again, it’s just going to throw all the power back into her hands and kill the mystery… again.

Back up. Let her come to you now.

How To Make Your Girlfriend Miss You: Maintaining Your Sense of Self!

Lastly, limit the telephone interactions when she starts reciprocating and when she starts asking you questions. I’m not saying you should go a week without checking in with her. What I am saying is to stop being 100% available to her. Don’t send her pictures every single day of what you’re doing. Let her try to figure out what it is that you’re doing, and be decisive in what you’re saying and how you’re showing up, and stay clear on how it is that you want to be perceived by her. When you want someone to start missing you, think of it like you’ve started dating again.

Remember to never put aside the personal things that you are doing for yourself, and don’t stop focusing on the goals that you have maintained during this time of working on yourself. You want to always put yourself on a pedestal and make sure you understand that you have a lot of dignity. You have enough respect for yourself that you can open up the space to set boundaries on how you will be treated, and respect others as much as you respect yourself.

When you are clear with your values and the things that you want from a woman, this is when you can become aware and voice what you want moving forward as she starts coming back to you. Make sure you are clear with your intentions in what you want, and make sure you are showing up as the best possible person you can be in your life starting today! You don’t want to be a man that’s 100% in. I always say, men, if this woman is not your girlfriend, in order for her to really truly figure out who you are, you have to mirror what she’s giving you. In the beginning, sometimes it’s 20 to 30% you have to give a woman. Of course, you want to give respect. It’s a two-way road. You want to hold your self-dignity and come from a place of confidence to know that she has to offer you something, and it’s not only about what you can offer her.

Your coach,

Apollonia Ponti


Apollonia Ponti, an international certified coach and founder of She works with men to attract the woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and helps rebuild relationships.

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