How To Make Her Miss You! 6 Tips To Get Results!

You’ve been questioning yourself lately, right? “Am I important to her or not?” “She used to be so much more into me,” “I don’t want to lose her!,” “Will she break up with me?” “How do I get her to want me more?” Perhaps you have even hit a plateau and you’re unsure, and it’s like you’re not progressing to the next level in the relationship. You two might not even be in a relationship yet! She might not be giving you any signs that she really wants to commit to you right now, but you want her to miss you and crave having you around, and you want to master attraction in order to make her want you more.

Well, the good news is that you’ve come to the right place! This article is going to break everything down on how to make her miss you. So it’s important that you read till the very end. By the way, I love hearing from you so please share any questions or comments below and I will personally answer them.

Make Her Miss You: Here’s the Key!

First things first! I don’t want you to think that this is the end of it. If you think that this is the end of it then you have set yourself up to lose already. Mindset is everything in attraction and in life. If you dwell in the mindset that this is the end, you will attract this with your energy and this is exactly what it will end up happening. What I do want you to do, is not only read this blog, but to continue reading my blogs about how to attract women, and how to become an attractive man in order to become more magnetic. You will be sure to get results!

“Apollonia, how do I get this woman to miss me?” Well, the reason why she does not miss you right now is that the attraction was killed. You have to reignite attraction and light her fire again!

Keep in mind that you have to sometimes walk a cold brisk walk before you start making the flame grow and warm up. In other words, distance is what is going to help you get her to miss you.

Let me guess… Perhaps you did the exact opposite because you’ve been thinking, “Well, if I give her distance then she will fall for someone else.” Again, if you think this then you’re accepting to lose! So stop that. 🙂 You have to get her to want you! You have to draw her in and maintain the mystery. You have to be the man that she desires that’s decisive, unapologetically honest, and is empowered with life and himself. If you really want to know how to get a girl to want you and miss you when you’re not around, THIS will get her thinking about you!

Alright, so let’s talk about what to do moving forward. I always talk about how the feeling of missing someone enhances the sense of mystery. This is the key to getting this woman to miss you because mystery builds curiosity, and you want her to think of you in a different way.

At this moment, she might have complete control and know that you want her. So, all she has to do is pick up the phone and say, “OK, I want to be with you” and you will automatically say YES! Right? Well, this is going to change. Mystery is great and exciting in every way; especially when it comes to courting, dating, and even being in a relationship. But these all happen in different stages.

There is a difference between being a little mysterious and just hiding things from your partner. So I do not mean that you have to be dishonest, but keep things fun. Keep things enticing. Keep things mysterious so both of you can feel the attraction no matter what when you are in the dating phase. This is what makes someone crave your company and miss you when you’re not around.

6 Tips on How To Make Her Miss You and Want You More!

If you find yourself wanting this woman more than she wants you, then these are the tips you’ve been waiting for that will make her want you more!

How to make her want you and miss you: Set a goal

: Right now, you are going to entertain yourself by trying out and doing something you’ve been wanting to do for a long time! You are going to invest some time into something you’re passionate about or book a trip somewhere new. If you’ve been wanting to learn how to play the guitar, now is the time to take some guitar lessons. Women are attracted to a man that is determined to do things he likes. She will start to see that you are investing in yourself and not spending all your time focusing on her which will build attraction. On top of that, it makes you look like an exciting challenge to her.
You might be thinking, Well how will she know what I’ve been doing if she isn’t talking to me?”

Oh, she will. She will reach out to you and this is how you can showcase change when you’re talking about what you are up to. But that’s not all. Following more of these tips will grab her attention and entice her to reach out to you!

Make Her Miss You by Posting on Social Media

Start posting a bit more on social media platforms. You want to show the new things that you are up to here and there. So if you follow the first tip, then post some nice photos of you doing just these new activities. Next, you want to post some photos with friends and family every once in a while to show that you are happy and joyful.

What you don’t want to do is post quotes and memes about feeling depressed or sad and think it will make her want you. It will get her attention but not in a good way. You want to show her that you are focusing on bettering yourself and that you are 100% focused on you. You are changing your behaviors and patterns.

I Miss You: The Power of No Contact

This is where a lot of people lose focus and they don’t know what to do moving forward. This can be the hardest part. I want to remind you that just because you take distance, it does not mean that you will lose this person. You have to remember that in dating and relationships, you are still your own individual and you have to look out for your best interests.

If this woman was taking over your emotions and you were letting your emotions ride on her behaviors, then it’s time to do a self-analysis during this no contact period. Remember, just because she reaches out once does not mean that you have to respond immediately.

Be Aware of Your Emotions When You Want Someone to Miss You

When you start to focus on why you feel a certain way and why your happiness might be dependent on another, then this is when you start to zero in on the root of what is causing this. This will help you become more aware of yourself and your emotions. This is a process and it requires work, but this is how you grow. This will help you to become more in control of these things when you see her again and helps you pace yourself. You don’t want to dive in right away just because she wants to see you for coffee. Remember, the key is to change your approach and demeanor towards her.

Mindset When You’re thinking “I miss my girlfriend”

This is one of the biggest tips of them all! A lot of times, we listen to the daily negative thoughts that come into our minds because this is what we’ve taught ourselves to focus on. So like I said, if you think negatively about this situation, you are already setting yourself up to lose. Basically, you already lost! Women want a man with an abundance mindset; not a mindset of lack, or scarcity. This won’t attract us, so start becoming aware of the inner dialogue you have with yourself during this time!

Trust Me, You Can’t Fake It

You can’t fake it, right? You really have to change the behaviors that influence the relationship for her to either push you away or for you to make her miss you. You don’t want to fake it, because, at the end of the day, you have to change your behaviors as I stated at the beginning of this blog. Growth is the ultimate element in attraction.

How To Make A Girl Miss You: What It Boils Down To!

The reason why you’re hoping this girl will miss you is often because of the fact that you’ve killed the attraction between you. So now it’s hard for her to see you in that light. You have to influence, and you have to change any behaviors that have influenced this activity. Think about your own actions. For example, were you too attentive? Were you too available? Were you too pushy? Were you too needy? Did you come on too strong? What were the things that you did that didn’t work, and you have to do exactly the opposite. You really have to get clear on that. So ask yourself these questions. Once you change your behavior, here is how the woman starts to think.

“Why is he not paying attention to me?” “Why is he acting differently?” “Is he thinking about me?” “Is he dating someone else now?”

Now, following in line with this, I want to mention that you should not accept all invitations from her. Okay. When you start doing this, she’s going to start missing you, because, as I said at the beginning of the blog, missing someone is enhanced by mystery. There’s a mystery involved when you take her off that pedestal.

The first thing that you cannot do is this. When she invites you to do something or wants to know what you’re doing, do not come out and tell her 100% of what it is that you’re doing. Don’t jump in with excitement and say things like… “Would you like to see me on Saturday?” “Oh, my God, I haven’t heard from you in a long time.” “So happy you are contacting me” or “I missed you!”

If you do this it will kill a month’s worth of mystery.

Instead, let me give you some text examples on how you respond when this does happen.
She’s asking how you’re doing so you go, “I’m doing great, there are a lot of really great things going on. Thanks for asking.” Closed-ended.

Let her respond again, “Oh, so what you been up to? I’ve been seeing all these Facebook posts of you and the ski lodge. Who are you with?”

“Oh, I’m just with some friends, and yeah, I’ve just been out here doing my thing, really enjoying it. Thanks so much for checking in.”

Again, closed-ended. Mystery, mystery, and mystery!

A lot of men think, “Oh, my God, Apollonia, how can I do this? She’s finally reaching out to me. She’s never going to reach out to me again if I do this. I’m just pushing her away.” No, you’re not, okay? Calm those voices down. Remember, the mindset is the key point in one of the tips we’ve mentioned. What I’m saying is exactly what you need to do, because when you do the opposite of what she expects and she reaches out to you after you’ve done this whole mystery thing, worked on yourself, and released attachments or neediness towards her, and then all of a sudden she texts you and you’re immediate at her beck and call again, it’s just going to throw all the power back into her hands and kill the mystery… again.

Back up. Let her come to you now.

How To Make Your Girlfriend Miss You: Maintaining Your Sense of Self!

Lastly, limit the telephone interactions when she starts reciprocating and when she starts asking you questions. I’m not saying you should go a week without checking in with her. What I am saying is to stop being 100% available to her. Don’t send her pictures every single day of what you’re doing. Let her try to figure out what it is that you’re doing, and be decisive in what you’re saying and how you’re showing up, and stay clear on how it is that you want to be perceived by her. When you want someone to start missing you, think of it like you’ve started dating again.

Remember to never put aside the personal things that you are doing for yourself, and don’t stop focusing on the goals that you have maintained during this time of working on yourself. You want to always put yourself on a pedestal and make sure you understand that you have a lot of dignity. You have enough respect for yourself that you can open up the space to set boundaries on how you will be treated, and respect others as much as you respect yourself.

When you are clear with your values and the things that you want from a woman, this is when you can become aware and voice what you want moving forward as she starts coming back to you. Make sure you are clear with your intentions in what you want, and make sure you are showing up as the best possible person you can be in your life starting today! You don’t want to be a man that’s 100% in. I always say, men, if this woman is not your girlfriend, in order for her to really truly figure out who you are, you have to mirror what she’s giving you. In the beginning, sometimes it’s 20 to 30% you have to give a woman. Of course, you want to give respect. It’s a two-way road. You want to hold your self-dignity and come from a place of confidence to know that she has to offer you something, and it’s not only about what you can offer her.

Your coach,

Apollonia Ponti


Apollonia Ponti, an international certified coach and founder of She works with men to attract the woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and helps rebuild relationships.

You can find her expert advice on “is she using me”, plus a couple other of your core professional services, through her YouTube Channel, and Attract a Woman E-Book.

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  2. Amir

    Hi Apollonia,
    Thanks for you really good advices. I knew a girl about 6 months and we went out some times together. we live in the same dormitory and we use the same kitchen. when we met she just broke up from last relationship which took about 4 years. she rejected me after 3 4 time we went out but we still talk as a good friends. But I noticed she always care about me and has some feeling that is still scared to go to another relationship. because she wants to stay in a serious relationship after that and get marry. I have also the same idea and I thought maybe is soon for her to go to another relationship and she needs to know me more. That’s why I gave her more time. she just had birthday 2 weeks ago and I gave her a gift and I found your page. I really like her and tried to be unavailable to her for a week and she start to reach out to me. again two days later for another thing and again yesterday with another question and then how are you you are not around. and I tried to answer short and close ended. My question is, should I continue like that?what should I do when we see each other in the kitchen with other neighbours? should I also send her a message another day. I am a little bit confused.
    Thanks for your help


    • Jordan

      Hi Apollonia, I’m trying to implement the no contact rule on a girl I’ve just met on snapchat, I told her how I felt about her, she said she feels the same way, recently I asked her if it got a little too much and she said ‘I think so’ then I asked if she would like some space for a few days, she said ‘please x’ I done a bad thing by talking to her every two days, this was from last Thursday that I wanted to give her space, and Three days ago was the last time I said anything to her, if I go no contact on her for a while would I still be a able to talk to her when she wants to talk to me again and figure things out for a relationship ?

  3. Phil

    Hi Apollonia! I recently matched with a woman on bumble. Flirtatious texts and I set up a date, which scheduling wise neither of us could do until a week later. She was very upfront she is selfish with her time and doesn’t want any guys who are too intense. I was very distant in my texting the rest of the week, and it seemed to work. (I.e.- we would send a brief text exchange in the morning, I would let it go rest of the day, and more than once would get texts from her later in the afternoon/evening). Great chemistry and texting through the weekend, all initiated by her. Monday of our date, she would reach out multiple times to text during her work hours. We met Monday night for a dinner date, 3 1/2 hours, texting me from her Uber the whole way home. Everything sounds great, right? Tuesday… same thing texting me, even nonsense stuff like she has 7 miles before empty and she has to stop and get gas. I have something important to tell her about my life, and I wanted to get it out there ASAP, so I asked her to coffee on Wednesday. She had meetings all day but agreed, then had to cancel because the meetings were long. She texts me when she gets out of the meetings, I couldn’t text I was driving so I called her back, she said she couldn’t talk. I expected a call shortly after when she got to her car… nothing. I sent her a text that night, she said she went out to dinner with some friends from the gym after the exercise class. I said ok, no worries. Im going to bed, text me when you get home. Nothing. Thursday, she texts “on my way to boxing class”. I replied an hour or so later “Morning!” Then nothing all day. I accidentally texted her last night meaning to text a friends. She responded this morning “??”, we went back and forth about it twice and since nothing.

    I’m sure I lost “control” because I seemed too eager to talk? But how do I get it back without “losing” her altogether? Or is this just… possibly over and it is what it is.



  4. Pat vigliotti

    Hi Apollonia,
    Your videos have been very helpful to me lately. My situation is a bit different but I think some of your advice applies to me.
    I’ve had a close relationship with a younger female that I’ve known for many years. We reconnected last year and spent a lot of time together just enjoying each other’s company. We expressed how much we loved each other then she started talking to someone closer to her age back in April and at this point she doesn’t even speak to me.
    I honestly don’t know what happened but I do realize thanks to you that I was too needy and attentive.
    I hope it gets better some day because I really love her so much!
    Anyhow thank you for your insight and videos.


  5. Bill

    Hi Apollonia-

    Ive watched a few of your youtube videos and frankly, stuck around for the advice because you live in Miami like me! Anyway, I met a girl online, we texted 1-2 times a day for about a week and then had a lunch date on a monday, breakfast date on a Friday. Again, texting 1-2 times a day. I asked her out for a few days later, (for a real date, Breakfast and Lunch were more because of scheduling conflicts) she agreed. That was a Friday. Saturday almost no text conversation, same on Sunday. Sunday however I did confirm Monday afternoon hangout and I also said Wed if Monday was no good. She replied late Sunday night with neither date would work. I scoured the internet to find out why she was so cold all weekend and Im under the belief shes playing hard to get. That said, I’m into her enough to chase, but I know NOT to chase based on all the content out there. BUT…. I dont want to not see her/I.e.- her lose interest because Im ignoring her.

    What’s my best plan of attack here? Great chemistry both meetings, all signs point to she was/is interested. Last text was Sunday night, its now Wednesday night. Should I call tomorrow and ask her out for this weekend? Or let the pot boil a little longer?



    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hi Bill,
      Thank you for reading this blog. I think you should let the pot boil over and let her contact you. I she is interested she will respond.

  6. josh

    Hi Apollonia,

    What about when you’ve been in a “casual” long distance thing where you are like “friends with benifits but more than friends” if that makes sense. me and this girl met face to face for the first time last year after being online friends for a number of years we hit it off straight away and had massive chemistry where we were travelling to see each other and do trips to other places for the last 13 months. I saw her about 8 weeks ago after feeling like the spark is dying down and we were still good when we saw each other face to face (although she did ask if I had been dating back home which is normal because of what we agreed and she sometimes asked that but then she said she felt like she was holding me back meeting other people I didn’t really answer that but then asks me why I didn’t invite her to a wedding I am going to in America, I’m from Australia I told it’s because she had been encouraging me to do some travelling by myself (which is true) I then asked if she wanted to come but then she turned it down. anyways the rest of the trip was lovely but since then she has been quite short in her messages shows less infatuation when we text but she still tags me in funny things every now and then but will sometimes take ages to message. I wrote her a letter recently which she called me and said it made her day and she has been going through some drama at work so it was well timed, but since then she is still off with her comunication. I’m seeing her soon when I go to her town for work but she doesn’t seem as excited as she was the last time. I dunno if maybe I’m just being a little silly thinking she might have met someone or the we have started to settle (get used to each other) a bit but I want to move this to the next level and ask her if she is willing to have a long distance relationship with me but because of these vibes I’m getting I dunno if I should and should I try to build the attraction again before I ask something like that.

    I just want to get your thoughts and how would I look to build up attraction again from a distance.


  7. Abraham

    Hi Apollonia. I have a little grasping what you said, mainly because of what I experienced. There was this girl who I kept attracted for a few months by keeping mystery and distance, while showing some interest. To the point she hinted at dating. After I did ask her out, she came on very strong and was very flirty via text. I returned the attitude to a greater extent. She immediately clarified that it was a relationship even before the first date. But once the date came, she said she was “not ready for a relationship” and “wanted to wait until uni”. I doubted this as I knew she liked another dude as well, which she spent lots of time with. I decided to pull back as I usually do and make very little contact afterwards. She now ignores me and I have no idea what to do.


  8. Abraham

    Hi Appolonia. Hope you are all good.
    I am seem to be a bit confused on this whole making her miss you through distance thing. There’s this girl whom I have kept quite attracted over the course of months, to the point she’s hinted at dating. When I asked her out, she became very flirty through text and came on pretty strong. I of course, reciprocated such to an equal or greater extent. She made it clear it was a relationship even before the first date. But once the date came along, she became shy and nervous, and when I asked her if she’d consider it a relationship, she said she “wasn’t ready” and wanted to “focus on her studies”. She also said that it was “ok that we liked each other”, but “would like to wait until university”. I was skeptical of this, I had already known that there was another dude that she liked and spent heaps of time with. I left at that. I called her a few days later, and she sounded uninterested. I texted her a few days after that and she clarified that she “wasn’t into the likes thing”. Currently, she takes active steps in ignoring me.I just don’t know what to do anymore.


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hi Abraham,
      I would need more information in order to give you advice on this situation. I can say if she is ignoring you then she may not be interested but do you know the reason why she is ignoring you?

  9. Mickey

    I don’t believe a word of this. Women are no longer the fair sex. Women are THE ENEMY now.


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Sorry you feel this way and good luck to you!

  10. Sirilo

    Thank you Apollonia!


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hi Sirilo,
      You are so welcome! Good luck!

  11. Sirilo

    Hi Apollonia. Hope all is well.

    I went on a date with a woman about two months ago and everything seemed to have gone fine. We’ve been texting a bit since then but I’ve noticed that she is bad at responding back. I’ve tried calling but it doesn’t work either. I’ve asked her out on a second date twice and she has agreed twice but when I suggest where and when, she doesn’t answer. I only get an answer a week later about something else if I initiate the contact. She says that she’s overwhelmed with work. I’m busy with work too but can’t imagine a job that is 24/7. After reading your blog, maybe I should be distancing myself a bit so that she can miss me? Let her initiate the contact?

    If you could please advise.

    Thank you


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hi Sirlio,
      Thank you for your comment and reading my blog about how to make her miss you. I 100% believe you should back away and let her come to you. If she contacts you do not ask for a date immediately. When she reaches out again then you can ask and when you do pick a place and a time. A lot of girls do not like when you ask the woman where to go. Just pick a place and time so she can show up. Don’t initiate contact at this point and best of luck!

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