The answer to this question would make you the happiest person on earth, right? It seems as though if you were to find out what our purpose is, we will be more fulfilled. The truth is that you will. In this article, I will explain to you how to get out of that bad headspace you have found yourself in because you have not found your purpose. I will provide you with answers to your questions and give you actions that you can start doing so you understand how to find your purpose.

What’s really important to understand before you read any further is that finding your life purpose isn’t about what will come to you. It’s about what you are willing to work for. In this millennial day and age, we are addicted to instant gratification in almost all areas of life. Even though you took a step by reading this blog, it does not mean this blog will be the answer and you will find your purpose at the drop of a hat.

It simply means I will be giving you the tools to understand how to start finding your purpose with the work that I am encouraging you to start doing. Once you start this, you will understand how to go about finding your purpose. This blog is not going to be like anything you’ve ever read before. I have read so many blogs about finding your purpose and none of them have been more detailed than what you will read right here!

I’ve coached thousands of clients on finding their life purpose and guiding them towards their goal with the key elements in this blog. By the way, this helped me to find my purpose too. As we go into this blog I will talk about the right mindset to adopt, and I will give you some pointers on how to clarify your life purpose.

How to find my purpose and passion.

There certainly is a need for someone to help others to purposefully live towards something they’re passionate because this brings joy to people’s lives. There is no limit to the number of people you can help, and there is no limit to the number of passions one can have!

There are so many reasons why we don’t fulfill our dreams, passions, and our purpose. We might think, “The world is so big – how can just one person like me be heard or seen?” Well, even though the world is big, the community of people purposefully going after their passions is small and one human can impact several other humans. So I want you to keep in mind that you are not too small! You have the ability to create what you want in life and the moment you believe that you become aware of the things that you will attract. Just being connected to your power is the ultimate weapon to explore when you’re searching for your purpose.

Also, it’s important to remember that when you are loving yourself and in the stage of finding your life purpose, you are exactly where you need to be. This stage right here is the moment that can help you to find your purpose in life.

Without further ado, here are my first steps in controlling your mindset in order to find your purpose.

How to find your purpose: Be as present with your moments…

These moments of clarity and exploration are the moments where we can miss opportunities, so be open to the conversations people are having around you, the mailers, signs or emails that you get. These contain signals that the universe might be giving you, urging you to look further into in order to see what will make you happier. If you ask for something, the universe has a funny way of handing it over to you.

Don’t beat yourself up for not knowing your purpose yet!

I see so many people beating themselves up for all kinds of different things. “I should know my purpose by now cause I’m this particular age.” Or, “ I thought I would be somewhere else in my life right now.”

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When you stay in a “what if” mindset, it blocks you from finding what you are supposed to live for. Sometimes you have to go through years of exploration in order to find your purpose so don’t put yourself through all this shame and guilt. Instead of doing that, be in the present moment of appreciation and understanding.

How to find your purpose and passion in life: Stop comparing yourself to others…

Social media is one of the biggest culprits behind depression and neglect in our society. A lot of people follow people on social media and wonder, “Why can’t my life be like this,” but social media does a great job and showcasing the best things and none of the requirements it took to get there.

These things can bring people down because I can guarantee that someone who is living their life purpose can tell you that it wasn’t just handed to them. They put in a lot of blood, sweat, and tears in order to get where they are today, whether it is through life lessons or building their empire (aka passion!)

Finding Your Purpose: The 4 Major Steps.

What are the things that draw your attention? What makes you feel like you are on top of the world and takes all the worries away?

How to find your purpose in life: Find out what empowers you…

When I was a young girl I would always wonder why people would say they’re in love and be the happiest person in the world and then months later my mom would tell me to go to my room as she comforted her friend that was in tears because she was facing divorce. Any other kid probably would have just eaten her candy, played Nintendo and would go on with her life since it didn’t directly impact her mother.

But for me, I would silently try to get out of my room and listen to their conversation and wonder why love would bring happiness and so much pain. Little did I know that my passion started at a young age.

As I progressed into my adulthood, I had a deeper level of understanding towards love and relationships so I would ask men, as well as my friends, questions. I would always want to know about their relationships and found myself in a whirlwind of toxic relationships because I ended up teaching myself.

I would find myself crying late nights because a man I was falling for wasn’t falling for me. But he had said that he was? I felt so frustrated and confused. I would find myself in an abusive relationship because I thought I had to support my partner only to find out I wasn’t supporting me.

I had to go through this pain in order to blossom into who I am. I noticed that my pain was helping me discover my passion. It started at an early age of sneaking in my room at 13 years old listening to Dr. Ruth (sex expert) till 3 am. Then finding myself so curious about love and relationships that I dove head first into them. I believe a person can only have seen so much pain before being driven to stop it. This is what happened to me.

Your purpose comes to you though Pain or Pleasure.

Finding your passion: Think about what are you willing to make sacrifices for…

When I found myself in a job that was paying well over a six-figure salary and being a Vice President of a corporate company, I would ask myself how it was feeding my soul. I then realized that it was taking more from me than anything!

Some of the people I worked with only cared about themselves, would stab you in the back to look better, and really didn’t care if anything were to happen to me the next day. I asked myself how am I offering value to people and I clearly was not. I would find myself not thinking about the business I have now. I asked myself what I was willing to sacrifice and put my energy into. Then I began using that position to save money for me to live comfortably and I made my non-serving job into a foundation that would serve me in the future.

I saved money to quit and the day after I did, I started educating myself and going to school. I took a course on human behaviors, graduated from the international coaching federation, and was on a mission working late nights, planning out my business, focusing and interviewing clients. I was waking up at 6 am to go to bed at midnight. But there was a huge difference… I was finally happy and my sacrifice didn’t feel like a sacrifice anymore.

So what are you willing to sacrifice in order to find your life purpose?

Who are the people you want to be around every day?

What type of people do you want to have in your inner circle? Who are the people you want to have conversations with? What are your friends typically asking you advice on or your opinion about? All these questions can help but who are you the most comfortable around? This can help you with finding your ideal client and what it is exactly what you want to do.

So who is it that you want to help? When you are on a mission to find your life purpose or follow your calling, sometimes you will notice that the friends that you were surrounded with may not offer value to your life anymore. I have noticed that when people want to grow in their lives, sometimes the closest people to them want to bring them down or they realize that they don’t actually have much in common with them. If this happens to you, please understand that this friendship may not be serving you right now and that’s OK. Keep your conversations to a minimum of what you share with them and just give them the time that you can when you can.

How to find your soul’s purpose: Figure out how you want to help…

Not too long ago, I was working with a client who was suffering from a breakup and had put his life on hold for this woman he was dating.

He wanted to be happier and find his purpose. I told him to do something that frightened him so he could get out of a state of depression for a moment and show himself that with just a decision, he could change his mindset. So, he decided to go skydiving. He loved it so much that he actually became a teacher after that! He started realizing that this was his passion but he didn’t want to just jump with anyone… He wanted to start jumping with people he could relate to Depressed people.

He became active in the community and started working with people who were disabled and had lost limbs. He noticed that these people would suffer from depression because they didn’t feel like other humans. He showed them that the possibility was available to them, and they could do things just like everyone else with limbs. It would just take more time and patience.

So my client started jumping with people that were disabled and he received so much joy in bringing happiness to someone who could finally do something they thought was unimaginable. Beautiful, right? This is his purpose. Since then, he has opened up a foundation and goes around the world training people to do this.

How to find your purpose in life with these 8 simple questions.

Finding your purpose comes from getting clear about your intentions. It’s not a guessing game, it’s a self-practice game. Practice is what makes you blossom and can define what you want in life. I always encourage people to write down and really take some time to journal out these questions and come back to them later.

How do I want to feel?
What excites me?
Who do I want to help?
When am I most comfortable?
What were my most valuable lessons?
What was my pain in life?
What was my passion in life?
What am I willing to make sacrifices for?

What pain, injustice or unhappiness have you witnessed that you just can’t live with? Is there anything that touches you so deeply that it drives you?

Often, a powerful purpose can come from powerful pain.

How to find my purpose moving forward.

Throughout this blog, there has been a lot of reflection and insight for you to empower yourself and really use this blog as a self-coaching tool for you to move forward throughout the journey of finding your purpose.

One way to finding yourself is through loving yourself. If you find yourself struggling with this I encourage you to read this blog on how to love yourself again. Listen, we aren’t perfect and we were never meant to be! Where we get stuck is when we continue to beat ourselves up for not being perfect!

That is where the true problem lies. In order to break away from these patterns and get the results that you desire, it has to come from you and only you. No book you buy, and no blog article you read, will give you the quick answers. It will help guide you but these things only help guide you when you become open to it. So, tell me what you enjoyed reading about in this blog on “how to find your purpose” and how can it help you moving forward?

Your Coach,
Apollonia Ponti