What do women want? The million-dollar question! As a man, you are always wondering why women don’t just come out and tell you what they want so you can learn how to attract women. But, it’s not that easy. If you knew how to attract women, it would become repetitive and boring. Then, you wouldn’t be able to spot that special woman out of the millions that are out there!
So, as a woman myself, I am going to tell you EXACTLY how to attract women and talk a little about the different behavioral traits of women and men. If this is your first time on my website please feel free to explore all my other blogs, as my studies are based on coaching thousands of men on how to attract women, interviewing thousands of woman all over the world, licensed certified coaching, and studying human behaviors and emotional intelligence.
As you can see, I’m not just a coach writing a blog. My content is based on fact, and though you might not always like what you read, it’s the truth! My goal is to help you to understand how a woman’s mind works, how she thinks, and how to gage her attraction for you. If you follow the steps I will share in this article, the woman will either make a move on you or become more open to communicating with you in a way that shows her interest for you.
I welcome your comments and questions about how to attract women below. I will answer your questions and share any advice needed. Your comments are always appreciated!
Attracting women: 2 False beliefs that men have!
What do women want? All men have asked this. Typically as a man you want to feel as though the woman respects you, honors you, and, sexually desires you. You’re thinking that this could be so much easier, so why do women have 100 other things that they want from a man? Well, I hate to break it to you handsome, that’s really not the case. We just want to see what you’re all about when it comes to life and I am going to cover this in my 10 ways to attract a woman below. Men miss out on dating women when they have the following 2 false beliefs.
False Belief #1: You have to have money. This is the biggest false belief out there known to man! Before you roll your eyes at me, read on so I can break this down for you a bit!
I am not saying there aren’t any women out there that aren’t just attracted to money because there most certainly are. Does money help status? Sure. But if you don’t have the qualities, a well put together woman isn’t going to put up with your bullshit and money will only keep her around temporarily. A man who thinks that he has to be rich and buy women things is lacking confidence in himself. A man with healthy self-esteem with money knows his value and worth do not depend on his bank account.
When a man tells me that women are only attracted to the money, he usually fits into two categories. One, he’s been hurt before. He just came out of a really bad breakup, bad divorce, or two, was played by a woman that was a gold digger. Guys, if you have been played by a golddigger it’s because you skipped the part about really getting to know who the woman in front of you was. You just went after her because she was a 10, pretty, with a hot body and maybe play a game of hard to get. DING DING DING!?
“Damn Apollonia, you really know what you’re talking about.” No kidding! If I haven’t convinced you yet about attracting women, and if she’s using you, then read the blog that I wrote all about this. Anyways, it’s safe to say that you have to do the work and ask the woman the right questions as well as determine her intentions.
False Belief # 2: You have to be a tall guy. I mean, come on! This is just crazy to me considering that only 14.5% of men are over 6 FT in the US population! So, consider that 49.2% of the human population in the United States are men and the ratio of single women is even higher…
So if the statistics did not convince you, I can let you in on a little secret. A woman in her early 20’s might be attracted to a man that’s tall or/and well-off. The reason? It’s because she is finding out a lot about herself and typically in America, this is the time during which a woman just likes to have fun. She’s exploring new things about herself and her life, and she does not want to settle down yet.
She also knows that this is her prime time and she can basically have any man. The fact that she is not worried about settling down makes her even more attractive. The key here is that women are just intrigued by a man’s height because it does not happen often. In regards to building a sustainable emotional connection with a man, a mentally-mature woman does not care about your height.
It’s about how you view yourself and how you position yourself, which is something we will go over a little further down. This is what attracts women!
10 Ways To Attract Women.
Confidence is an irresistible trait but it’s hard to have when you are not aligned with your purpose. Purpose is having your eye on something that fulfills you and not letting anyone stand in the way of that. I like to break down the meaning of purpose like this: Productive, Understanding by, Right, Picking, Of, Someone’s, Excellence. This does not mean that you have to quit your 9-5 and start something that fulfills you. No, it means planning and investing time in what fulfills you. What is your passion and how can you start investing time in it? Finding your purpose can take time, but it requires you to be honest with yourself.
#2 Honesty and Communication:
Being unapologetically honest shows confidence and also shows a woman that you have a lot of dignity. Having your own opinion shows a woman that you aren’t just trying to impress and please her. Of course, you want to respect her but you also have to challenge her. What happens in a woman’s mind when you do this is that she understands that you have a sense of pride and are grounded in who you are. When you are open to communication and showing honesty, it builds an emotional connection with a woman.
It’s very attractive when you have a sense of pride in the way you treat others. In a woman’s mind, this is a direct reflection of your character and future respect for her. So, if both of you are out to dinner and you’re being rude to your waiter, then this is a big red flag for us!
#4 Stay Educated:
A woman wants to be able to have conversations with a man that she can exchange with and learn from. She wants a man that will be able to share advice, but also some personal things that he has been taught. This builds a connection and shows a sense of strength and stability in a man. Yes, we get this all from being educated.
#5 Be Adventurous and Spontaneous:
A man that can keep us on our toes is very exciting. It keeps the endorphin levels up and makes a woman excited about what’s to come. Don’t be afraid to plan something where both of you can get an adrenaline rush together. This also shows a huge sense of pride and confidence. It presents you as a man who does not have a timid, insecure mindset and that is so attractive to women. I also want you to keep this in mind when you’re wondering about how to keep a relationship interesting.
When a man can make us laugh we start to share a special bond with them and women always want to be around someone that brings happiness to the table. So if you enjoy some playful banter, have fun, and make sure both of you participate.
#7 Be Motivating and Uplifting:
this can also be summed up as energy and charisma! There is something so attractive about a man that has energy and makes you feel happy and positive. It kind of makes a woman think, “I want what he has.” Then, we start to think, “Man I feel so good around him. I believe he could be ‘The One.’” If you don’t know what energy and charisma look like then, think about Will Smith! 🙂
#8 Goals and Values:
This is huge! A man without goals has no direction. A man without values has no self-discipline. Women lose attraction when we have to carry the weight of finding out who you are. This isn’t shouldn’t be her job. So, you should know this before jumping into any healthy relationship!
#9 Mindset/Does not put pressure on the outcome:
Read my Confident Male Mindsets blog. This has a HUGE shift in the dynamics of approaching women and attracting women. When a woman feels as though you are not desperate to rush things so that you can be together, then she will honor and respect this and be even more attracted to you. It’s not to say you’re going to come in with this “player” mentality and say, “I don’t need you, I don’t want you, I’m so cool.” No, it’s about your willingness to take the time to cultivate something good for both of you. By doing this, you become a leader and women are attracted to a man that can lead!
#10 Builds Sexual Tension:
Men, this is significant! If you hold out on sex with a woman and show that you want to see where this goes without jumping in too fast, you will score some HUGE brownie points.
Bonus Tip: Has Style! The reason I left this as a bonus tip is that I personally believe everyone attracts different people and they have their own tastes. So choose your own personal style and make sure you present yourself in a way that makes you feel confident. Not everyone is going to want to wear urban chic. You might be a man that likes to ski and do outdoorsy things. Then keep up to date with your “lumberjack” style. You might be a hippie and not like to wear pointy dress shoes. Well, then make sure you smell great, have clean clothes and keep up with your bohemian style. This is what I mean about presenting yourself well. Own your look and be confident!
Though I must say, urban street style and business style are two of my personal favorites, paired with a good cologne!
How To Attract A Girl: The Key To Success!
The best way to attract women is knowing your individuality as a man and being okay with being alone. A woman can sense when you are lonely and are seeking outside validation from her or from a relationship in order to feel accepted or loved. A man that feels self-assured on his own is a man that is attractive to women in general. In addition to following these tips, my advice to you is to understand that the more you put yourself out there and can handle rejection, then the better your process will become.
If you are a man that has a hard time talking to and flirting with women, and hold yourself back because of it, then you won’t get anywhere when it comes to attracting a woman.
You have to fall off the bike a couple of times before you learn how to ride successfully. Remember when you were a kid. You didn’t give up and once the training wheels came off you fell a couple more times, but you continued to get back up because of your determination!
So have some determination in dating. I know it can be hard but that’s why having the right mindset will make the situation so much less draining. This comes naturally when you work on understanding how to love yourself, being okay with being alone, and figuring out who you are before anything else.
So many people seek relationships to fill a void and this is why there are so much heartache and so many divorces. We have to start dating right and attracting the right women into your life! You want to stop dating down and start dating up! So having the right conversations and paying attention to a woman being into you is going to be very vital in the moments of attraction.
Understand that not everyone is meant to like you. I say this because just because one woman rejects you does not mean the next one will do the same. If a woman ignores you then just move on. Sometimes these things happen and if you get set back by this one woman who ignored you, then you won’t have time to focus on you!
Attraction starts to manifest within a man when he shows up for his life’s purpose. It’s that time when you’re vibing so high that someone comes up to you and says “You seem different,” when nothing has changed at all. The change happens with the inner self in terms of how you feel, and this will have a direct correlation with your behavior and your motivation in your daily life.
This creates a significant shift in your presence and women are captivated by a man that knows his worth and carries it with respect and integrity!
Your Attraction Coach,
Apollonia Ponti, an international certified coach and founder of apolloniaponti.com. She works with men to attract the woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and helps rebuild relationships.
You can find her expert advice on “is she using me”, plus a couple other of your core professional services, through her YouTube Channel, and Attract a Woman E-Book.
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