How To Make A Girl Think About You Non-Stop! 4 Expert Tips!

Want to be the man that she constantly thinks about? It will be pretty simple after reading this article because I tell you how women think, and how to make a girl think about you non-stop! You have to connect on another level that most men don’t know how to do. So many women think, “If he only knew!” Well, you will know!

This article is designed to not only keep it real with you, but also to highlight something that has worked for many clients that have been able to get women to think about them non-stop. We women desire to be wanted by a man just like a man desires to be wanted from a woman. But the ultimate connection happens when you understand how a woman thinks. We are completely different than men in the way we process things and in terms of what makes us fall in love.

I invite you to leave comments or ask questions below in the comment section as I always love hearing from you!

How to make a girl want you…

It all starts with the emotional connection when you are able to connect with her. An emotional connection does not mean that you get overly emotional and attached, but it does mean you voice your desires early on. This means you show her that you are the guy that she wants. The time that you spend with her is very important in the attraction phase. Make sure you remain calm, cool and collected while you are attracting her. You do fun things and make things pretty light-hearted early on. Do not put pressure on her. She has to want to desire you. This is how you make your presence known.

So, once you start going out on dates and you want her to think about you non-stop, the goal is to remain in control of the situation. Do not tell her you want to be with her on the first, second, or third date. Also, do not get mad at petty things and throw a line like, “What kind of girl are you? Are you looking for something serious?” This is too aggressive.

I see many men going in head first too soon. Listen, things come up in life so try not to respond with ego if something happens. Let things progress naturally and do not try to force anything. The attraction phase is vital for this. This is when the woman is still trying to figure out if she desires you, if she desires you sexually, and if she desires to be with you long term. This is a sensitive area that a lot of men mess up. Keep in mind that a girl does not know you when you are in the beginning stages. This is what women find attractive. I actually talk about 17 traits that make a woman attracted to you that you should check out after this.

A surefire way to spark her interest is to pace yourself and get to know her. You’ll have her attention when she sees that you are holding yourself of value. Men are visual creatures and when you see a perfect girl, you tend to go all in too soon because you’ve already decided this is what you wanted. But she hasn’t decided this yet. So, in turn, you start to get too intense, too early on. You may start assuming the worst of things if things do not go exactly how you want. Then you jump to conclusions and she could end up seeing you as someone who might not be secure with themselves or who might be too clingy in the future. This is what kills attraction. I bring this up now because this is something that happens often and in order to get her thinking about you non-stop, you have to make sure you do not kill the attraction early on.

How to get her with these 4 pro tips!

So you have been going on dates and things can be going well or semi-well. Here is what you do:

Tip #1 Do not be predictable! This is the most important thing of all. You want to show balance so she knows that she has to still to attract you and that she still has to do some work to get you. Example: If you text her “Good morning” or “Good night” all the time, then let her do it, too. Do not be the only one doing this as she has to show up in her ways too. Also, do not respond to her text to early on so she can get excited to see you on her phone. Let the anticipation build up before she sees you again.

Tip #2 – Be mysterious. Let her wonder what you are doing. Do not post every single second on social media about what you’re doing, what you’re eating, or what you’re thinking. Post less if you are active on social media. Also, mysterious means disappearing. You don’t want to disappear for too long but you want to disappear just enough so she wonders to what you are up too. If she texts you in the morning, say something like this later on that night:

“I’ve had such a busy day! I hope your day was great as well. I’m going to head to bed as I have a long day tomorrow. I’ll talk to you soon and goodnight.”

Then text her again in the morning so she sees you are present but still have a life of your own. This shows her that she is not yet your priority and ultimately women love this. It shows her that you have a sense of stability in your life and that you are fulfilled with the way you live it.

Tip #3 Do this a couple times. There are some coaches that will tell you to go off the radar for days but let’s be honest – if a woman is attractive she is not going to be turned on by this because she could think it’s shady. Instead, pop in and out on your terms. You are the busy one! Keep this up for about three days. When you start to engage in normal conversation again she is going to be thinking, “What is he up to?” She might think things like, “What is he doing that he is so invested in that he is not giving me all the time in his day?”
This stands out from a lot of other men and what they are doing right now. Remember you want to be less predictable which enhances the attraction phase. Most of the time this girl might even say, “When am I going to see you again?!” This is what you want!

Tip #4 Making the plans after being busy. Let me clarify what I mean. You want to pop in here and there, but be less attentive during this 3 or 4 days. Do not reply to her texts all the time and don’t be too available. When you start chatting with her again, focus the conversations back on her and what she has been up to. Tell her you have been busy and that work has been crazy. You don’t want to fully answer exactly what you have been doing so you can spark the mystery.

Once you do this schedule something with her eventually. Why? The time that passes will get her excited to see you again. That time that passes will get her looking forward to a date with you. Say something like this when planning a date: “Hey, I’m busy the next two days but have some time Friday night. Would you like a grab a drink around 7 pm?” Make sure your texts are simple and to the point. You never want to become her text buddy.

How to make a girl like you more!

The ultimate way to get a girl to want you or to think about you more is by living a life that you truly love. Never forget about your goals and aspirations, and do something daily that gets you closer to them. This is the ultimate source of attraction. Women love this! A man that is comfortable in his own skin and that has taken the time to work on himself and his own insecurities really play a part in a woman’s life. Not only because he is putting himself first, but because he sees himself as a desirable man. At the end of the day, if YOU see it then the chances of her seeing it will be increased. The man that always holds himself with pride and dignity is the man that will win. If a woman is not reciprocating then you walk away with your head up because you continue to put yourself first, just like you would want your woman to do the same.


  1. jon boyd

    hey apollonia i need some advice ive been talk to this girl well texting and she seem intredted with me at first but then agin she doesnt


  2. Yyy

    I think this is complete Bull shit ! If you like a woman don’t play games or she will run away if she is high quality


    • Trevor

      Exactly.. if you are an adult, quit playing these dumb games

  3. Pete Ran

    I was dating a girl for nearly 10 weeks and everything was great. We had fun, laughs, great sex and really opened up about our pasts. She would always initiate texts and I would always make fun plans for us. Whenever I didn’t ask to see her for a few days she would tell me she wanted to see me. One time she even got upset when I said I was tired and didn’t want to hang, that she didn’t get to see me enough that day. When she got fired she ran to me to cheer her up, when she got good news I was her first text. We went away for her birthday weekend and just had the best time. I gave her thoughtful gifts and made the weekend romantic and special. She told me how grateful she was for everything and had the best time. When we got back she made a bunch of plans with me but the next time we saw each other she said she wasnt feeling it and ended things. I really like this woman and am very confused. We have slept together since then and been out where she told me she had an amazing time. I want things back the way they were. What should I do?


    • Mike


      Thanks for your helpful advice!

      “She avoids me because she likes me too much”

      I met a woman online and we bonded immediately (both in our early 40’s). We felt serious mutual chemistry and share a surprising amount of life interests, passions, and values. It feels beautiful.

      Our entire relationship thus far has been one lovely in-person date and lots of bonding via messaging over three weeks through a dating app. But the fact that I don’t permanently live in the same state as she does, along with a health related matter she is dealing with, made her pull back and then finally disappear from the dating site without warning. This was my only way to communicate with her as I never got her phone number; although she has mine. This behavior is incomprehensible to me. I’d never avoid someone I feel a huge connection with. Doesn’t seem like her style either.

      Her last message to me said she was afraid of falling too hard too fast for me but then I’d leave the state and so she guarded herself, yet she wants to know what our connection is about too, along with wanting to hear more about what I work on. Confusing.

      I don’t know what’s possible with her but I can’t ignore the “OMG, I think I found the one!” feeling. I’ve never felt this way upon meeting someone. Regardless, this is a special connection here and I never got to express some crucial things that might have made a difference. This really hurts.

      I WAS a content single guy, yet now it’s torture to assume she avoids me because she likes me too much and thinks it’s not possible with me anyway. I feel we might want the same thing here though, and I do see an easy way that we CAN regularly see each other to explore this, yet I can’t tell her unless she contacts me or I go hunt her down online, which I don’t want to do.

      I want her to know how I feel and what I see. Been weeks since we’ve communicated.

      Not sure what to do. Help!


  4. Jose Falcon

    Hi Apollonia.
    Thanks for the wonderful article. I try to do these things so many times, and will continue to do so, but I am always afraid that when time goes by and she doesn’t contact me I’m losing her interest or she’s liking me less or all of that. This is definitely the slowest I’ve ever moved with a girl and it’s mainly because she’s super guarded, so I totally understand why we’re going slow. But it’s clear that she likes me and I like her so much as well! Between work and school she’s super busy! We text here and there. Phone calls here and there. Facetime here and there so I’m not too worried. But I always send the goodmorning text. My worry is what if I don’t and she doesn’t either? Or the questions I mentioned earlier?
    Please help! And thank you!


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hi Jose,
      Thank you for taking the time out to read my blog. I am glad that you are finding it helpful. Your concerns with what happens if both of you do not maintain contact can be overwhelming. If you would like a private coaching session to further discuss this and for me to give you tailored advice, here is my link:


  5. Tom

    Hey Apollonia!
    You know so much my gosh! Thank you for all the tips so far.
    I met this girl 4months prior to this we started out just calling and texting and eventually it led to her admitting she liked me I did also we became very flirty with one another and this led to the first of love for one another how ever she always brings up we should act as friends any ideas why? And how to improve the situation? As well as she is very socialable and talks with a lot of guys.. but I do tend to feel jealous sometimes which I do not like feeling any tips?


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hi Tom,
      Yes, don’t get jealous and show her that you are wanted as well. I believe talking to other women and keeping your options open will be the best case scenario for you. It seems as though she is slightly taking advantage of these situations I would build on the mystery a bit and let her come to you.
      Good luck! Thanks for reading my blog and I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  6. Chris

    Apollonia, I appreciate your articles and videos. They offer insight into the daily grind of getting things started with relationships. My things I’ve been off the market for 13 years and well my wife decided to divorce me. So, I tried to put into place the techniques and mindsets you talk about. I met a girl this past weekend and the whole time we were talking I was displaying confidence and being funny to which I even got her phone number. I waited a few days to call and ask her to join me for drinks and she said she would have to check her schedule. Now it’s been a few days and I haven’t heard from her. Should I call or text her? Now for me I struggle with rejection and I’ve never felt worthy or good enough for a woman that I find attractive.


  7. Jo

    Hi Apolonia, Im 22 .This girl approached me when we first met in highschool, its almost 3yrs we know each other. We got to know each other in the 1st year(wasnt really interested then) and we dated later for almost more than a year when were done w/ highschool going to college. I had started working and schooling, was very busy but we had magical dates. She would pratically do anything i asked i was crazy and was very submissive. Out of the blue, She begun not showing up on dates. Eventually she started asking girls…”why are you so well dressed”…”who was that girl”…etc Then would go weeks w/out reaching out. I mostly remained centered for her behaviour was actually getting funny like she was my gf. Until one day(JULY), we agreed she’d come over. She didnt show. I took my distance letting her know calmly that night i wasnt happy w/ her behaviour w.out bitching ofcourse. The following week she reached out telling me she’d starting classes at college.Basically always texting informing me about her daily. I gave brief indifferent answers. She came up w/ the funniest reasons to just text me. But then coming Sept. it all stopped. She called me in Oct. couldnt return her call but text back. It pissed her off that I didnt bother to call back just text. Silence till November, she called asking what she’d done wrong. When she called and my line was busy shed assume automatically that im talking to another girl so ive ignored her. Late Dec, on my Bday she called wishing me Merry Xmas and Happy Bday,(i never told her my bday) . At the end of the call she acted again like she was the victim, forgetting how she misbehaved in the past. It ended w/ “this is the last time Im calling you, to see if you’d atleast check up for once or care about “a friend” Bye. Texted 2 days later”I will be @my Aunts in 2days @7pm , you can come over.” She saw it immediately, no response. Till now. What’s going on? Lastly on the last 2 calls when she asked when she’d me , I let her know she’d have to make it up to me first. Very rarely post on social media but when I do shed be the first to like. Advice please


  8. Ritz

    I like this girl very much. We even had a sexual relation for which i give her some gifts. But i am not sure if she really loves me or just my money. But she is good and gentle to me. She also doesnt text me too often . Just maybe once a week . I know she is busy with work and have her friends circle. I want to figure out what feelings she has for me. Or is it just my money that she likes.


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hello Ritz,
      Thank you for reading my blog about how to make a girl think about you non-stop. How long have you been dating? I think the best thing to do in this situation is pull back a bit. See if she will initiate and reciprocate with you.

  9. Kim

    Good day Apolonia
    Thank you for this wonderful piece.
    I learned a lot from videos and this time on your blog.

    Now on my story

    Im seeing this girl for about 5 months now btw she recently broke up with her boyfriend, we see each other almost everyweek after office, she’s a very busy person and im at opposite side im always available, im always the one who message first, actually i message her everytime and eventually ended arguing because i was too available for her and she doesnt want me to pop out everywhere because she easily startled, and then she message lesser i know she’s a busy person and im not, i already told her about my feelings to her at the 3rd month she’s knows , and she’s not ready , im willing to wait for her and im doing every effort that i can do for her really do love her. That is one of the reason im here watching your Videos and reading your Blogs.

    Thank you Apollonia


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hello Kim,
      The biggest problem is your waiting for her. Instead, you need to do things for you. Start getting busy! Start doing opposite and making a schedule for yourself so you are not 100% overbearing as you may be to her now. What you are doing is killing the attraction in order to build attraction you must pull away and also do things that interest you.I hope this helps and I’m here if you need any other support.

    • Matthew Bonk

      You just described my exact situation.
      I hope things work out for you.

    • Kim Jonathan

      Until this day i struggle to follow your suggestion Apollonia, Attracting her again kinda hard for me and im afraid to pull back a bit, im afraid to lose her, i cant fake to be busy, i hope i can do it, attracting her

    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hi Kim,
      Thanks for reading my blog about how to make a girl think about you non-stop! It’s not about faking it. It’s about really turning within and loving who you are. Investing in things that you want to try and do new things. This is how you will attract her. You might be putting too much energy on someone will not make them want to be with you.

  10. Law

    Hello Apollonia Ponti You have got a great sence of knowing girls…
    I Fall in love with an girl since 3 years but we never get the time to express ourself clearly,after somedays we both got engaged on talking with each other on mobile phone but by some reasons her mom got everything known.After that day I stoped texting and calling her and I left that collage,after one and a half years later she contacted me we both shared our feelings again we were in true love but again her mom came in middle and she warned me to stay away from her daughter or she will tell the cops I was stunned and we stopped again;I love her alot plz help me I wanna marry her Please help!!!


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hello Law,
      Thank you for reading this blog about how to make a girl think about you non-stop. I’m happy you enjoyed it. I know right now is difficult but I would encourage you to give her space and not push her so much on marriage as this will not attract her back to you. When you stop calling and texting you may get results.Hope this helps!

  11. Robert Wayne

    Great piece of writing friend. I have met the girl of my dreams. she is fun, lively and most importantly has a superb dressing sense. when we talk, she touches her hair a lot but she does not seem confused or anything when we talk. she goes out with me but it is not any sort date or something due to outdoor work, we go together two 2 to 3 times in a month. I have a question; can she really be into me? I am afraid to make a move what if I have been assuming it this whole time? Could you help me by sharing some advice? I do need it at this point.


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hello Robert,
      Thanks for your comment. It seems to me that she is into you. I would suggest asking her some questions if you haven’t already. Something like what are you looking for, or where do you see yourself in the next two years. Slowly hold her hand here and there and see how she reciprocates. Best of luck!

  12. miguel cepeda

    hello im a 56 yr old man currently talking to a 42 yr old woman, i like her an want to be more than a friend, i just dont know how to approach her in that matter, she has told me that age is not important, im afraid if i approach her in that matter she walk away, tnx.


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hello Miguel,
      Have you tried just to initiate some outings with her? Lunch, dinner etc? Casually just be with eachother flirt and see where it goes. Don’t put any pressure on the situation and see if she would like to grab lunch one day if you have never asked her out before.

  13. McLean Opus

    Hello Apollonia.
    Thank you for the good job. Now for my case,
    I do have this problem of fear! Whenever I see a beautiful lady, fear takes control of me and I fail to say hello, and instead walk a way. Most times I start to assume such a beautiful lady has a guy in her life because there is no way she can be without a man in her life because she is simply gorgeous, yet that is not the case with all the beautiful ladies.
    So how do I develop courage to go and say hi without having that feeling of being, ” am going to be rejected.”


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hi McLean,
      The answers to everything you asked is in this blog! 🙂
      Also, understand that the nerves do not go away fast. It simply will be there until you continue to challenge yourself. You have to face your fears even when you are shaking and go after what you want. Read that blog and let me know what you think. Hope it helps!

  14. Muedi Ahunawavhudi

    Hy Apollonia Ponti me i am insecure about my “penis” it is too small. So this discourages me to attract and fall in love with girls cause i think i wont satisfy them in bed. Any advice? Please


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hello Muedi,
      Have you subscribed to my YouTube channel? I will have a video about this soon. Thanks for reading this blog how to make a girl think about you non-stop!

  15. Chuks

    Ponti, you always make me smile with your words… I am full of uncertainty cos I do not know what’s happening in my relationship. I tried this, I saw results and then I messed up again. I find it hard to be consistent in it. I felt if I continue that way, I might lose her… Maybe I am cos she hardly calls anymore… I want to come out of this… Phew… Its disturbing


  16. Etchu zachius ojong

    Hi Appolonia.
    Thanks for the amazing job. My case is a little complicated.
    Would u mine to leave me your contact so that I can call and explain my self?
    I will be more than great.
    Best wishes.


  17. Nicholas Khumalo

    Thank you so much… your information is very helpful.. I have started doing some of the things you shared and I am seeing amazing results… I am still growing… thanks


    • Apollonia Ponti

      This is wonderful! Thanks for your comment and sharing your insights. Wishing you the best!

  18. Louis

    Welcome back (Apollonia),
    Hope the speaking engagement overseas went well. While you were away, I sent you a gift. It came back (return to sender)? The end of the year holidays is upon us perhaps I can get it to you before the year is up. More than likely, I will like to work with you and set up an appointment for a phone conversation. Perhaps before Christmas arrives but definitely before New Years! Sometimes, a person has to treat his or her self, right?

    Keep up the good work in relationship building. A good time to SMILE.


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