How To Keep A Relationship Interesting With These 10 Pro Tips!

So you’ve most likely found yourself reading this article because of one of the following reasons. You are with someone right now and you want to make sure you know how to keep a relationship interesting. You’ve experienced the loss of a spark in a previous relationship, or you want to know how to keep a relationship interesting because your current partner seems to be losing interest, or perhaps you might be feeling like you’re the one losing interest in this relationship!

Let me be clear about what you are going to get in this article. You are going to get real advice on why this happens in relationships and you will understand how to change your behavior and fix recurring patterns. I am also going to give you some insight on why women lose interest. Since I’m a woman myself, I know how we think!

On top of receiving all of this juicy information, I am also going to give you 10 tips on things to do to add the spark back into your relationship.

As you know, I always welcome your comments. This is a place where I can answer your questions about something you are going through related to what you’re reading today, so don’t hesitate to leave your questions in the comments section below. It would be my pleasure to personally respond to you!

How to keep a relationship exciting!

More often than not, a relationship might be losing the excitement because you are with each other a lot and spend every moment together. Perhaps you live together, which also changes the whole dynamic of the relationship. The feeling of being excited to see each other and thinking about that person all the time while giving you butterflies has gone away.

I like to call this the “schoolboy or school girl” phase of the relationship – When you are just head over heels about each other and want to spend time together and you just love each other so much! You might still want to spend time together and still love each other now, but that all-encompassing excitement is just not there anymore. Which by the way is not meant to be there 24/7 in the relationship. Let’s just say the woman you are with just lost a little interest in you and has either told you explicitly, or her actions are showing that it’s time for a minor adjustment in order to keep things exciting.

The thing that keeps relationships exciting when the schoolgirl phase is over is mystery! You’re probably thinking, “What? Mystery? I’m not into playing games!” No, that’s not what I mean. Here is the thing. I am not telling you to not text her back and be secretive about what you do after work or on your guy’s nights out. If you do that then you might be headed down another path that I want us to avoid. So mystery does not mean hiding your phone and secrecy is not a good way to keep your relationship exciting.

I am talking about flirting with her and not rolling over and accepting this situation. Think about doing something at home that sparks your interest like a new project in the garage. Just start working on it without her having to know.

Or, let’s say you like to cook. Just cook by yourself and have a glass of wine and then see if she joins you. Show her that you are into your time alone, and this creates a little bit of separation. With separation comes mystery. You will introduce new excitement because you are changing the pace of how you regularly do things.

When you’re thinking about how to keep a relationship fresh, another idea is to take a salsa class by yourself. Show some more independence and with independence comes mystery, which naturally turns anyone on! This is what I mean by mystery. Change the pace of how you normally do things! Create a healthy separation to get your partner wondering what’s going on. When she brings it up, just tell her you to enjoy doing these things. This is when a woman will recognize that you’re giving attention to something else – especially if she’s gotten used to getting a lot of attention in the relationship. This creates attraction and shows that you have a life of your own.

Yes, a woman wants to have your attention but we don’t want you to give up 100% of your life for us. But, if lack of attention is an issue in your relationship and that’s why you are losing the spark, then that’s a whole different ball game that I will go over below.

How to keep a relationship interesting if you lost the spark.

You can find yourself in a relationship that is less interesting if neither of you put in the time, attention, affection, and communication a relationship requires. This might be a two-sided story or might be one-sided, but when these things are not being met, you can easily lose the spark in the relationship. If you lack any of this in your relationship it makes you feel unimportant, disconnected and just confused. If a relationship stops growing and there is no novelty or spontaneity, you could get bored. I mean let’s be honest. It’s not every night and every year of your relationship that are you going to find yourself having wild sex throwing each other against the walls, yelling from the top of your lungs give me more!

Now that you are out of that imaginary mind frame of how things used to be, let’s work on bringing some of that excitement back. But before we do, I want to be very clear about committing to the tips that can help you below. If your partner has completely shut you off and she is ignoring you, then it might be a time where space is needed in the relationship.

In order to have a healthy relationship and keep a relationship exciting, you have to learn how to grow from your shortcomings, but if your partner is not willing to grow then space might be needed until they end up taking the steps to initiate change in the relationship. You cannot force this and there is nothing you can do to control this. You can master what attracts women but if the woman you are with now is not interested in being with you and is not giving you the time of day, the most powerful thing you can do to heal your relationship might be the hardest thing… and that’s to walk away if you’ve given it your all and the other is not reciprocating.

Don’t worry though – you can get the spark back no matter what situation you’re facing today. Ultimately it might be you needing time or space or it might just be that you need to try new things. I know that each relationship is unique, but it’s important I address the specific situation that you are going through and make it clear that these things can work. So if you are not emotionally available in your relationship I encourage you to do so now. It’s not uncommon for people to fall out of love with each other, especially after years of being together, but it does not mean that you cannot get this love back!

It’s important to prioritize yourself and the evolution of your relationship now, so focusing on your well being and revamping the relationship is key.

10 Tips on how to be more interesting in a relationship.

Be playful: Play fun games at home like board games or card games. Don’t just turn on the TV every night. Switch things up on some weekdays. Tickle each other and this might sound funny, but play hide and seek and try to pop in and scare each other. Put on some music, have a glass of wine and just dance. Often times it’s the little things that keep a relationship interesting.

Roleplay: This also might sound silly but it brings so much humor when you do this. Roleplay and switch places for the night. In other words, you can be her and she can be you. Do this maybe for a good hour or two. You will share so many laughs but also it can be a reflection of how your partner perceives you. It can actually give you an idea of the things you can adjust.

Do activities on your own: Join a group that you want to be involved with, or start something that you’ve been wanting to do for a long time. Think about learning salsa, or public speaking. Get involved in things that will make you push your limits and challenge yourself.

Do new things together: Take each other to do different things like riding in bumper cars, bowling, skiing, sporting events, or indoor skydiving. There are so many activities that you can both share and experience together. I’ve done laser tag and that was so much fun! Incorporate these new things into your date nights once a month or every other month.

Take a couple days away from each other: Give yourselves the opportunity to miss each other again. If that means going to spend time with the family or going on a weekend trip alone, then do it! You want to create some space for both of you to miss each other.

Re-engage in new communication: Ask questions and listen. How are you miscommunicating with each other right now? What makes her glow with happiness? What makes her feel good? Listen to the things that light her up and remember them. Use them in your day to day interaction with her as she will voice what’s important to her.

Start working out again: We sometimes get that extra few pounds of relationship weight. Now it’s time to get that body back again and even if you never had it before, getting physically active helps with attraction. Get back in the gym and you’ll feel a shift. It improves your sex life and in a couple months, you might just be having the sex you once used to have together. Trust me on this!

Change your style: What’s your wardrobe like? The way you present yourself plays a huge role in attraction. When she puts on a sexy dress you look at her differently, right? Well, how do you want her to look at you? Maybe not a sexy dress but definitely think about a nice collared shirt and slacks on date night. Don’t let yourself go because physical appearance is so important in your relationship!

Challenge each other to protect the relationship against routines: If every night you have dinner at 7 pm and at 8 you sit on the couch and watch TV till bedtime, it’s time to change this. Challenge yourself to break a routine every once in a while and do something else at home.

Reinvent your sex life: Changing your habits and putting your best foot forward will improve your sex life. Sex relieves frustration and releases hormones that make you feel closeness in your relationship and it, of course, keeps a relationship interesting. Consider buying a kama sutra book and working on new positions that you both want to try. Talk about the things that both of you want and what you want to experience together.

Keep the relationship exciting with these final thoughts.

Listen, a lot of people fall in love with the idea of being in love all the time. This is what breaks a lot of trust and expectations in relationships. Remember the man that you were that she fell in love with and become that man once again.

You can become a better man by always working towards your goals and the best possible vision of who you truly want to be. There are so many couples that experience this daily, and the most important thing is to look at this as an exciting challenge. We cannot learn if we are never challenged, right? So, see how you can take this opportunity to work with each other to turn this around and how you can change for the better throughout the process. I know it can be easier said than done, but nothing worthwhile in life is easy. That’s why everything requires work! When you work for it, it’s so much more gratifying at the end.

I look forward to hearing from you in the comments below. If you find yourself going through this right now and want tailored advice on your current situation on how to turn your relationship around and get the spark back, then I highly encourage you to book a private coaching session with me.

I have faith that you can have the relationship you’ve imagined, and I want you to have that same faith!

Your coach,

Apollonia Ponti

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  1. Thank You, its not quite the info. I need at this present time, as I am not sure there is even a possibility of a relationship with this particular girl I am interested in. We recently went away for a weekend but I didn’t even go in for a kiss even though I had the opportunity. I just dont know if she is interested in me in that way. I really dont know what to do without appearing desperate and needy, plus I am in Europe and she is in America!!

    1. Hi Martin,
      Thank you for your comment! Why did you not go in for the kiss? Don’t let your fear of rejection ruin your possible outcome. Why are you confused if she is interested in this way? I am writing another blog about this as we speak. Hopefully, I will have it up before the end of this week as it may help. Why do you feel that you would be desperate or needy? If she is going on a trip with you it seems she is interested. Give me a bit more info so I can be clear about my advice. 🙂

  2. Hello, am from Nigeria. Thank you very much for this. The girl am interested in, we see each other everyday because we work together in the same place. We have been friends for a while now. I had to step up. I told her how I felt about her. I would describe her reply and body language as a ‘Yes’ and ‘No’.
    I do not know what to do?

  3. You reached out to let me know you understand. I got to give you credit. My objective is to keep the relationship with my lady interesting! Here is the dilemma officially.

    In a nutshell, I want to make sure that I never lose my spake to keep my woman engage intimately. My partner has what you call a low sex drive with no interest in trying new things romatically.

    Cheating has never been an option. It goes against my respect for my woman. I like to walk in integrity and most importantly keep a peace of mind with The Higher Source and myself. But, the waves are speaking! What is a man suppose to do when it when the woman does not wish to RECIPROCATE when it comes to being intimate?

    I forsee a phone session being arranged with you sometime shortly to keep me in perfect peace. I have nothing to hide from her. She knows I have taken a liken to your relationship tips and videos. Her curiosity has prompt her to say, Why do I need to ask (“You”) for advise? All I need to do is to talk to her. Apollonia, conversation with the opposite sex is a skill I do not lack. She knows this! Since, I reached out to work on what it takes to attempt to keep the spark from permanently going out between us … She is going to half to at least meet me half way. I really don’t want to make the decision to walk away. A good woman is hard to find. Just to be fair here.. A good man is hard for a woman to find, likewise! I know what you could be thinking, “Have I been treating her right?” The answer is YES!

    Kindly keep this dilemma in your prayers and meditation time. I really do need the correct course of action to take moving forward.

    Stay, beautiful!

    1. Hello Louis,
      Thanks for your comment. Before you even mentioned at the end are you’re treating her right I knew you were. I can tell by the way you position this relationship and the issue that you’re working through. I will keep you in my prayers. Just continue to do fun, new, and exciting things together. 100% she should meet you halfway as much as you do too. Best of luck! 🙂

  4. Hi Apollonia,

    Here Narendran , Little bit stuck up with my EX. Six months back she dropped my love , after that met and spoke with her . she told about engaged with someone(not clear) . Let me explain our situation with my family. just wait for February.
    Couple of months it will smoothly went on . Suddenly one day told me phones are seized by parents .

    I couldn’t try any thing
    thought it’s finished

    Along with that a month passed.

    Yesterday called me wished (religious function) and disconnect the call .tried somany time that no. Switched off.

    Both of them are different states in a country.

    Im totally Loss the trust with her , didnt Believe her words frustrated with the circumstance .

    If it is possible to rebound the realtionship again , with a life partner.

    Kindly let me know she is loving or playing with me ..

    Thanks & Regards

  5. Im saying if the girl was into it like the guys are then this world would be flawless. Simple fix.
    Why the girl needs guys to do all these things to please her. Women needs to open up themselves and stop playing hard to get for nothing.
    An understanding women would know this, the ones that dont it doesnt matter if you gave them the world they still run off with some other dude. Wtf!

    1. Vang,
      I hear you and I hear a lot of pain possibly from previous women. This is why I talk about communication is key. This article is not intended to just please women. I help men so a lot of men do ask about this and my goal is to be able to provide them these keys and tips. Wishing you the best!

  6. Well apolonia here is the situation i done so much for my girl but i feel like if i step in a wrong door she will be gone but is not eazy i been doing all i can to save this short relationship but still floating berly as long as i continue doing crazy things for her she will stay but her kids are saying that she’s taking advantage of me but i do it because i want to so shes berly noticing my actions for her all i do to satisfy her wants and im not even in the door completely but i qhess relationships arnt really eazy as people say what you think apollonia ponti

    1. Hi Al,
      It’s difficult when you are doing so much for someone you truly care about and in return you are feeling that she might be taking advantage of you. In addition, you are not receiving the validation you deserve. I need to know more about you and your relationship so I can give you guidance tailored to your needs. If you are interested in a private coaching session here is the link.

  7. All these games = fond childhood memories . Nintendo had so many quality games . The 90s was the golden age of gaming. Damnit makes me want to hunt down a snes now .I do have Roms but it’s not the same . … Btw Eye of the beholder was one of the greatest rpgs released for SNES.

  8. This is mostly a bunch of chicken soup lists. Done based on facebook browsing. And not based on who actually played this games back in those days.Note: how they establish limiting rules on the Sega console games list reviews, meanwhile there’s no such limit for Nintendo console games list reviews. Opinions are always subjective. But there is a lot of own foot shooting, on these lists. Still… Back in the day, I wouldn’t sit and play any 16 bit graphics RPGs, nor boring platformers. That’s why I’ve chosen to own an SMS rather then an NES. And later got bored of the N64 that I’ve bought later on.To make this listing better, you dudes should try understand the importance of a certain console or game, for the moment in witch they were played back in the days.

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