Now more than ever, men are asking what the definition of a real woman is today. The confusion lies between men and women as the woman has been able to take more of a masculine role in today’s society. Women have become more independent than ever and the masculine man is left feeling that he may have to sit back and let the woman dominate the relationship and lead the way. In general, this is not actually how men and women end up working the best together. I start this blog saying this because I know this is a popular topic, but I also know there are a lot of women out there looking for a great man. They know how to appreciate a man and this is where the man comes in. In life, everyone can attract unhealthy relationships but it’s all about how good you get at saying “bye” to the wrong ones and good you get at saying “hello” to the right ones.s is why it’s so important for men to learn the answer to “What is a real woman!”

My advice comes from years of experience talking to men and women and coaching hundreds of people. This world is so confused when it comes to love and my job is to make it as simple as possible for those of you that are reading this right now. Please don’t hesitate to leave your questions in the comments section before and I will personally reply to you.

3 Personality Traits of A Real Woman:

Let’s take a look at the list of ten signs that you’ve got a real woman in front of you!

A real woman is compassionate!

She’s a woman that’s open and honest. She is typically open with you from the beginning of your relationship when get to know her. She has a loyal sense of compassion for herself and other people.


a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.

She’s going to be open and honest with you. You’ll notice that there may be some women out there who don’t give you the time of day, but there will also be some women that see things 50/50 and ask…”Hey, let’s go meet up for coffee.”

Real women who know what they want can lead from time to time when pursuing you. She can have a mature foundational conversation with you. It could be about her life, but about also what she is looking for in life and love. She might come off strong or an “alpha woman”, but at the same time, maturity sets in and you’ll notice that she’ll respect you enough to not play games.  

Signs of a real woman: She’s Emotionally Stable!

She’s probably had a time in her life where she went after the wrong men and now has learned what she does not want. She might be saying things like…”I’ve had enough of these games. I’m going to do things differently, and I’m just going to be honest in my communication,” and she showcases her personal values to a man.

This comes from self-worth, and sense of pride and dignity. You know when you see a confident woman by the way she carries herself. Then you might say to yourself, “Wow, I’m intrigued!” The same thing happens for a woman when she sees a confident man.

Real women have mastered their femininity towards men.

She may be an independent woman or she might be somewhat submissive, and that is fine too because there are a lot of different types of women that are okay with who they are. This comes down to culture, how they were raised, past relationships, and what they feel like works for them. Every woman is different in their own way, just like men. It’s just about finding the woman that matches who you are, and what you are attracted to. A real woman knows her power, knows her strength, that she is able to communicate that to you, and she is okay with pursuing you. She is okay with opening up about herself and her intentions, and things like that.

The reason I bring up these two types of women is that a woman who has mastered her feminine energy understands the importance of what a man can bring to the relationship (just like the man understands how much a woman can bring to the relationship). She does not have to be entirely independent all the time. She shuts it off so she can work towards interdependence. She does have her submissive tendencies at times but she is opinionated and open about what she wants. Real women don’t allow a man to take advantage of this.

The Definition of A Real Woman In A relationship.

In addition to some of the tips I shared with you above, the true definition of a “real woman” is someone who knows that she can bring a sense of security to the relationship as well. She offers the man something he isn’t willing to lose. She makes him a better person and he continues to contribute the same things to her.

A woman that is not a real woman won’t support you during the times of hardship that you have no control over. Example: You don’t have control over losing someone special. If you become vulnerable and cry, and then all of a sudden this woman does not support you and is turned off by this, well… then she is living in fantasy land.

A woman is supposed to step up in the times her loved one is in need,  just like a man should too. That’s why it’s vital to get clear with our intentions moving forward with women.

As much as you think that they’re not, they really are. I see it and talk to them every single day. It’s just about getting clear about your intentions and moving forward. When a woman does not show up when you need support, then it shows that you may not receive the support you want from her in the future.

I encourage you to seek a woman that is okay with you and your vulnerability. Now I am not talking about neediness and insecurities: I mean the vulnerability of when you need the rock to support you. Can she be that woman for you?

What makes a real woman sexually?

When it comes to intimacy, a real woman is going to be open, and she is going to want to reciprocate. She’s also going to want to receive, and she’s going to be open with you about her expectations. Real women are going to want to build that emotional connection with you in addition to  the physical one. She is going to want to please you just as much she wants you to please her. Don’t forget, women love that too!

That is a big thing with relationships and with women in general. We forget what it takes to not only satisfy our partner, but how the both of you can work towards satisfying each other. A real woman is going to want to know how she can make her man happy in the bedroom, but this will gradually fade away if you don’t pay attention to her needs as well. To satisfy not only yourself, is to satisfy your partner.

Most importantly to her, there needs to be communication and vulnerability. Both of you need to be open enough to communicate what you want from each other – and not only sexually. Make sure that both of you are comfortable enough, especially when it comes to trusting her to show your vulnerability. I say this because so many women aren’t prepared for a man’s vulnerability and if she’s not, she’s not a real woman.

Some may think that because he’s a man, he has to be strong, and he has to hold it together all the time. If he cries, that means he’s weak and she won’t be attracted to him. In no means am I saying you have to cry at everything, but when you have no control over life situations or when something unexpected happens, it is normal to need support. A woman who is real will be able to provide you with that support.

The most important part of this whole blog is that it takes time to get to know someone. In today’s day and age, most of us are focusing on what people offer us on the outside, so we rush into things and we create a story about how she is so perfect… When you barely know the woman who is standing in front of you.

Your coach,


Apollonia Ponti, an international certified coach and founder of She works with men to attract the woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and helps rebuild relationships.

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