Why is she ignoring me!!?? I know this process can be frustrating and leave you confused since your yearning for your loved one’s affection or attention. In this article, I am going to discuss the reasons why you are being ignored and what to do from here. It’s important to understand to not look past the things that got you to this point. Either you didn’t court her properly, you did something to ruin her trust, or she may not be interested. I will define all this as you read along.
One of the things that I often see men doing is not taking ownership to the reason why you may be getting ignored especially if you did something wrong in the relationship. But you taking ownership now by reading this article is the first step, so congratulations on becoming a better man! In this article, I am going to explain to you exactly what to do from here moving forward. After reading this article you’ll be less confused and you will know how to handle this moving forward.
How about if you didn’t do anything wrong and you feel like you’re being ghosted, or maybe she said: “I need space.” Well, this is where you’ll find all the advice you need!
I love hearing from you, share your feedback or questions in the comments below.
Why Does She Ignore Me: 7 Reasons Why
There are 7 key reasons as to why she may be ignoring you, these are:
- She’s bored
- You keep pushing a certain issue
- You’re too shy
- You’re inconsistent
- LIfe getting in the way
- She may have a new boyfriend
- There is no connection between the two of you
Read on below for more information on each reason!
She’s Bored- Typically a woman gets bored with you because there isn’t something new. You might be doing something with her that’s just routine and not enhancing the relationship. The thrill in the relationship might be lost. Here is where you should do something enticing and different. In relationships, you should challenge each other to step out of your comfort zones in healthy ways. So, if this rings to you and you feel like you’re getting ignored because dating you was too routine then try changing it up like go rock climbing, laser tag, vacation, beach, there are so many ideas. Look for ways that you can do things differently in a relationship.
Pushing an Issue- A lot of times I see men pushing issues on a woman about possibly spending time together or not getting enough time. Maybe she has kids, and you want to spend more time with her, you continue to push her on spending quality time together, and she ends up begin resentful or aggravated with you. This is the most common one I see all the time. There are a lot of other issues that you can continue to push on her, and it just ends up driving her away. Whenever I see couple’s pushing their problems on each other, I ask. Why are you forcing this issue? Is it for self-fish reasons, expectations or is it because you want to be in control? The relationship gets often destroyed because of this.
You’re Too Shy- You’re probably thinking what? I got to this point so why would she think I’m too shy. Women love a man that steps up to the plate and pursues her. So, if you’re going with the flow, she may think that you’re not serious about a relationship or her. Woman love when a man courts them to take her out and do things together!
You’re Inconsistent- If you’re not showing up for a woman by sticking to your words and following through then she might not be taking you seriously. So, if your dating a woman of high-value and she sees that your inconsistent she’s not going to wait around for you. Some examples of being inconsistent are not planning and doing everything last minute, not sticking to your word, sending a text every once in a while, to check in. What people call breadcrumbing. You sprinkle a little bit of attention to hope she sticks around.
Life- As general as that sounds life can get in the way! There is divine timing for everything and everyone. If you try to force your way through this, you will get hurt! Here is what I mean by this. Maybe she is working and trying to advance in her career or school and doesn’t have time for a relationship or the attention you deserve or want. Or possibly she isn’t ready to settle down at this very moment, and you can’t change someone’s mind about this. They will have to change their minds not you. If this woman wants to have fun, then my advice is to walk away.
She Might Have a New Boyfriend- Let’s face it, this happens more than ever now because people date several people at once. But it’s important to understand that it’s possible she was dating someone before she met you and advanced further into the relationship then she did with you.
She Might Not Feel the Spark- You may not have built an emotional connection with her, or maybe it just wasn’t there. A lot of men take pride in getting a woman to like them so they easily ignore signals of when a woman isn’t into them since they don’t want to pay attention to the signals. We all face rejection in our life, and it doesn’t make you any better or worse. So, if there is no spark there, I suggest you move on!
Why is she ignoring me if she likes me
Here’s the truth on what I see happening in almost 90% of my coaching sessions. A lot, of times the woman you like or you’re in love with is ignoring you because you became overbearing or may have influenced a lot of the arguments because of you possibly being co-dependent on her. Now, one thing that’s very important here is that you understand this is something that can drive a relationship downhill. Why? Everyone wants to have their personal space, and time for themselves. We tend to forget that we are all individuals and even though you are in a relationship or dating this person they still need their time to let things progress etc. I say this because everyone processes things differently. Possibly your someone who wants to talk things out right away but she might need her time. As people, we tend to believe that certain people, places, or professional aspirations are above us; better than us. You may feel they may be cooler, smarter or just generally more valuable than you are. So, instead of investing your time into yourself you invest it into them. You cater to their needs and forget our own- and this, to put it simply, is not fair. You are important, you are valuable, you are relevant. Our dreams are not above us, but rather, they are ahead of us. Use this moment right now as an opportunity to put yourself on the pedestal. Take control and don’t instill more worry or doubt because by doing this they know you will be there every single minute, hour, or day and end up taking you for granted. There is a difference between healthy dependencies and unhealthy dependencies which I talk about in another article so if this interest you, please feel free to click here to read this article about co-dependencies.
The best thing to do right now is giving her space. Don’t text, don’t call, don’t knock at her door. Don’t base your actions on emotions do them with logic by taking your time. When you take time for yourself, it’s essential that you redefine what makes you happy. To have a healthy relationship, it’s essential for your health as well. So, what can you do to enhance the relationship with yourself and focus on your qualities to attract the person or the right ones into your life? Having self-respect is continuing to do the things that make you happy, showing up for you, and setting boundaries on what is right for you and the relationship. Don’t act on emotions instead take the time that it takes to recover your emotions and come from logic.
Now, let’s chat briefly about if you were dating this girl and eventually you both just lost touch or possibly she never returned your calls. Well, most of the time when this happens she isn’t that into you. I know sometimes that’s hard to swallow as that takes a big hit to your ego but don’t let this get the best of you because once you find the one these things won’t matter.
I welcome your comments below. If you have any questions about a specific situation, please feel free to reach out.
Wishing you the best.
Apollonia Ponti, an international certified coach and founder of apolloniaponti.com. She works with men to attract the woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and helps rebuild relationships.
To get real results with women NOW! Change your life and master your attraction. Book a coaching session here.