10 Signs Shes Not Into You Anymore!

Isn’t it frustrating when you don’t know if she’s into you anymore? That’s why it’s so important that you read this article because I am going to give you 10 signs she’s not into you anymore. These signs are signs that happen in real life situations that a lot of people choose not to talk about. Not only will I be giving you the signs on how to tell shes just not interested. But I will also give you a couple of recommendation on how you can move forward or even try to get her back into you at this very moment.

I love hearing from you so please comment below, and I will answer them personally!

How to know if she’s not interested anymore.

Love not being reciprocated is a hard thing to swallow let’s be honest! It’s one of the most challenging things you have to swallow when someone else does not love you back. There are many feelings that I know you are experiencing right now as uncomfortable as it may be. The sense of rejection, humiliation, and that inner voice telling you-you aren’t good enough. But don’t worry, it does not last forever! You might be starting to realize the girl of your dreams may not be that into you, and when you understand this you’ve not only found yourself here, but you’ve been faced with doubt and maybe choosing the route of denial.

You’ve probably seen yourself looking back on old text messages or thoughts trying to analyze every situation to make you feel better or even get your answers. Ultimately, to carry on a relationship where another isn’t reciprocating you’re prolonging the heartbreak. You can’t force someone into liking you back no matter how hard you try, how much of a nice guy you are, and at the end of the day it’s better that you know the truth and moves on quickly to someone else that likes you. So, if you are fearful that the woman you love has fewer feelings for you, I am going to share the top 10 signs that will confirm this for sure.

Signs she is not into you anymore.

1. She Uses The Word “Friends” To loosely: She might be casually talking to you and saying things like “you’re such a good friend” etc. Whenever a woman uses this loosely around you and gives you no sign of physical connection, then she only sees you as a friend, and this is her way of telling you this indirectly, so she does not have to face that she has hurt your feelings.

2. She Responds and Calls When It’s Convenient For Her: Since you aren’t a priority to her then she sometimes forgets to respond she may find it boring to respond to you. She has no urgency to see you or is not thrilled about seeing your calls or text, so she does this when she has nothing else better to do.

3. She Does Not Reply To Your Text or always gives excuses: She responds but gives you an excuse. Like “I’ve been busy, I’m so sorry.” and the list goes on!

4. She constantly flakes on plans: So typically if something else comes up better in she will cancel plans with you. Also, you might get to the point where you have talked about plans together, and nothing ever happens. She just never responds. Another thing that’s very common is she might even do the “I’m bored” text a lot with you and plan things last minute just because she doesn’t feel like being home alone and may need some attention.

5. She doesn’t care what she looks like in front of you: she does not take the time to look pretty or even get dressed up. Women that are interested care what they look like especially in the beginning stages with a man.

6. She avoids physical contact: When a woman is interested in one of the most important signs is physical contact. A vital sign that two people are romantically involved is constant touching: Resting hands on each other’s legs, grazing backs of arms or even playfully hitting each other. If your crush isn’t doing any of these things, and if her body language is stiff and unapproachable, then she’s giving you subtle signs she’s not interested.

“I took a girl out on a date,” explained Peter, 32. “I was driving her home, and as I dropped her off, I went in for a kiss expecting that she would reciprocate. She backed away and told me that it wasn’t the right time and she wanted to go home. This confirmed she wasn’t interested in me!”

7. She does not introduce you to anyone important to her: If you and this woman have been “dating” (at least, in your eyes), she might not let you meet anyone in her world. Introducing close friends and family to a partner is one of the most solid signs of commitment, and if she does not introduce you as well as talk about them with you. This can be a sure sign that she does not see a future with you.

8. She tells you directly or indirectly that she’s not interested: She might throw you hints here and there that she is not interested. She might say something like “ I don’t want a relationship right now.” or “I just want to have fun.” or the famous words “Your such a great friend!” Also, if she’s been direct with you about how she isn’t interested and has told you upfront, then it’s time to move on.

9. She does not commit to anything that has to do with the future: This is familiar with the sign of not introducing you to friends or family, but this comes into play with future events as well. Let’s say New Years comes around or a holiday and you’re not first to be on the hangout list then this is a sure sign that she’s not interested. Here what a woman has to say.

“ I remember when I was talking to this guy I wasn’t interested in and I was invited to a wedding. Typically you can bring a plus one, and I didn’t invite him. This was because I wasn’t interested and to be honest I didn’t even think of it till now.” -28 Amanda

10. She leaves you behind and only hangs out with you in groups: Let’s say that you guys do hang out. Well, when you hang out does she pay attention to everyone else but you? Also, where do you take her out? Do you take her to beautiful and scenic places that she loves and that’s the only reason why she goes out with you? Pay attention to her habits this is going to be key for you!

How to tell a girl is not into you & what to do moving forward!

One of the most common trends I see today is people will ignore each other and not talk to one another and ghost one another to let them go without confrontation. Typically this happens when you don’t hear from them for a while, or you might see some new photos of them traveling or with another man on social media!

Here is the simplest and most comfortable thing for you to always remember. Everyone gets rejected, and everyone isn’t always someone’s best match. It’s a lot to do with timing and where an individual is at the time of their life. The best thing that you can do here is focused on you! What excites you? Focus on that! Pay less time and attention to the woman that you are in love with or have a crush on and do things that uplift you. Get your confidence back and book a trip and do something spontaneous. Start dating again and also post some photos of your recent spontaneous trip on social media. I can guarantee that when you do something different this girl might see you in a different light and if she doesn’t then that’s not your fault it’s hers! Remember don’t ever think that you’re not good enough just because a woman wasn’t ready for you or didn’t like you because I can guarantee you the moment you focus on you and walk away with dignity will be the moment another woman comes in asking for you to give her that opportunity!

Your Coach,

Apollonia Ponti

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  1. Brian Heims

    Hi Apollonia,
    I have been going out with a girl for about 3 months now. Before we had a great time. She would smile at me and wanted to have conversations now it seems like anytime we are in a group she always smiles at everybody but when i go to say something she just stares at me and then she goes back to smiling and having a great time. I love her and she says that she loves me but whenever we are in public she doesn’t act like it. Also she smiles at my friend which is a guy. I don’t think that she is into me anymore, but i feel like if i lose her then I will be stupid. I don’t want to break up. Should I ask her what she thinks of our relationship at this moment or should i wait. Im a senior in high school and she is a freshman. I feel like after i graduate she is going to break up with me anyway. Should i be patient and wait to see what happens. This is also my first real relationship that i had. Im terrible at reading emoitions. Sometimes she is happy and it seems like she wants me but not in pubic. Mabey its because she doesn’t like to show stuff in public. IDK anymore. Please help me. I don’t know what to do anymore.


  2. Yuri

    > because I can guarantee you the moment you focus on you and walk away
    > with dignity will be the moment another woman comes in asking for you
    > to give her that opportunity!

    That’s just not true. Alas.
    I’ve been there, I know better.


  3. Peter

    Why does this girl keep blowing hot and cold on me .we are at a platonic stage drinks group friends etc .When she has alot to drink she will snuggle into me etc and she says she loves my humour but couple of days later her texts our dry and cold .I done what you said and distanced myself and went travelling in cub a for two months so hadn’t seen her then she stated to interact with me again and show interest laughing etc then couple of days later back to being dry etc doing my head in advise appreciated thank you


  4. Seeking answer

    Hi Apollonian…
    I have my gf for three years….last year she went back to her country but we still in touch strongly till 6 months ago when she visited me in my country…some bad great happened from my side to her due to my jealousy…since then when she back to her country, she changed and she always says not in mood to talk or busy in work…we broke up twice in the last 6 months but she finds reasons to back to me…I have asked her twice to discuss our relation to start again but she always reply that she doesn’t want to talk, she asked me to go and read books or articles how to deal with her and this how I end up in your blog 🙂 …now she planning to spend her birthday with me next month but she still in busy mode or tells not in mood to talk…I am very confused…is she not interested to be with me or she want to continue with me but hurted from last time incidence…plz advice from your point of view…thanks


    • Dee

      Maybe she have someone else, me myself I don’t get involved in long distance relationships because you never know what a person is really up to. So I think you should get a girl closer to you and date her. But don’t be a dick to this girl your talking about now. If she wants to hang out once she comes back here or wherever you at, hang out with her and keep it like that. But you should be going out and getting other girls and stop worrying about this one your talking about. Because from the way it sounds it sounds like she has someone else beating her pussy up. So go out there get another girl who lives closer to you and date her and stop contacting the one your talking about. A lot of times when you make your self less available you become more attractive to girls and then they’ll come back looking for you. Now because your busy. Busy beating up some other girls pussy. Anyways good luck bro

  5. Jo

    Apolonia. Sorry made a mistake in the previous comment ” SHE WAS VERY SUBMISSIVE AND READY TO DO ANYTHING” NOT I


    • rdm

      True words

  6. Jo

    Hi Apolonia, Im 22 .This girl approached me when we first met in highschool, its almost 3yrs we know each other. We got to know each other in the 1st year(wasnt really interested then) and we dated later for almost more than a year when were done w/ highschool going to college. I had started working and schooling, was very busy but we had magical dates. She would pratically do anything i asked i was crazy and was very submissive. Out of the blue, She begun not showing up on dates. Eventually she started asking girls…”why are you so well dressed”…”who was that girl”…etc Then would go weeks w/out reaching out. I mostly remained centered for her behaviour was actually getting funny like she was my gf. Until one day(JULY), we agreed she’d come over. She didnt show. I took my distance letting her know calmly that night i wasnt happy w/ her behaviour w.out bitching ofcourse. The following week she reached out telling me she’d starting classes at college.Basically always texting informing me about her daily. I gave brief indifferent answers. She came up w/ the funniest reasons to just text me. But then coming Sept. it all stopped. She called me in Oct. couldnt return her call but text back. It pissed her off that I didnt bother to call back just text. Silence till November, she called asking what she’d done wrong. When she called and my line was busy shed assume automatically that im talking to another girl so ive ignored her. Late Dec, on my Bday she called wishing me Merry Xmas and Happy Bday,(i never told her my bday) . At the end of the call she acted again like she was the victim, forgetting how she misbehaved in the past. It ended w/ “this is the last time Im calling you, to see if you’d atleast check up for once or care about “a friend” Bye. Texted 2 days later”I will be @my Aunts in 2days @7pm , you can come over.” She saw it immediately, no response. Till now. What’s going on? Lastly on the last 2 calls when she asked when she’d me , I let her know she’d have to make it up to me first. Very rarely post on social media but when I do shed be the first to like. Advice please


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  8. Haq

    Hey Appollonia
    Thanks for your good tips and videos
    My gf made me confused whenever I talk with her or text her she doesn’t show curiousity and interest and stop replying. Whenever I don’t reply for 2 or 3 days she starts replying again and same repeated again and again
    Please guide me either she is interested or not and why she is behaving like this.


  9. Hemsa

    Apollonia (sorry for the lengthy comment, idk if its appropriate or not),
    I have fallen for her, she approached even before we knew each other or anything
    to know abt a technicality in admission procedure, then a thing led to another and
    we know each other for around 4 months. Her responses when we saw each other for the 4 months,
    i have listed them in a series as per your points. I am way too confused as to what is happening,
    i would be very grateful if u could help me, just to know if she’s into me or not or she just is pretending to ignore me

    1. About the first point, i do know that she has said once to her bestie that
    she “i would never ever break friendship with him”

    2. About the calling, in 60% cases she picks up my call and when she doesn’t pick it, she won’t call back in abt 75% cases.

    3. She won’t reply every time, but will have them seen as soon as she gets them

    4. She has flaked on some plans unnecessarily

    5. I can’t say if she cares or not, i never noticed it that much

    6. She doesn’t contact avoid it completely, many a times, she would play with my hair, swipe her hand over my knees and hand
    Also, if i approach, like when u try to hold her hand, she just holds it, but way too lightly

    7. Introduction is something that actually never happened much from both sides, but we have talked among us abt them

    8. Abt telling how interested, i don’t know what the following sentence would actually mean, she said it around
    2 months after we were seeing each other, ” I just really wanna be in a relationship with a great guy, i just am a
    bit scared ‘coz of the past”

    9. That hasn’t happened much as she doesn’t have a lot many friends here

    10. Sometimes, sometimes not, happens around 60% that she is with one person, but she does leave them if i say so

    Thanks again Apollonia


  10. Michael

    Hey Apollonia,
    What if you don’t know if you’re the one doing things wrong or if she is? For example, we had an argument a couple of months ago and I have been thinking of calling her or even texting her. Now, the thing is, I have no clue what to say. Every time I want to send the little “Hey” I feel like she’s moved on and I’m making myself look stupid. What would you do?


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hi Michael,
      At the end of the day, what do you have to lose? If you still think something is there text her and if she rejects you it might sting but that’s only temporarily. If she is a good woman and you think you can connect again then try it. Wishing you the best of luck!

  11. Daniel Salazar

    Everything you said in your blog is happening to me. Apollonia I really fell hard for her.i know it’s a bitter pill to swallow and sadly I have let her go . I will learn this lesson maybe some girl think of me because I know I can make her happy and I deserve to be treated with respect and love.


    • Apollonia Ponti

      Hello Daniel,
      I am sorry this happened I know it’s difficult and I am here to help you every step of the way. Here is an article about letting go that will help you. Please feel free to comment there if you have any questions. 🙂 https://www.apolloniaponti.com/how-do-i-let-go/

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