She rejected me but still acts interested: What does it mean?

A woman has rejected you but she still wants your attention. She might text you, flirt with you, or even intentionally lead you on and leave you feeling extremely frustrated. At this point, you may be thinking, “Why in the world is this girl playing these games?!” These mind games disturb you to the point that this whole situation is driving you crazy! I get it. As a coach, who also happens to be a woman, I have coached thousands of men in this type of situation. This is something that happens all the time and I know exactly what to do.

In this blog, I am going to give you some techniques but I will also give you some insight, as a woman, as to why this is happening. So, if you’re in a situation where you’re realizing, “She rejected me but still acts interested” you’re in the right spot!

I welcome your comments, questions, and concerns below this blog, so if you need some advice on your specific situation, all you have to do is comment below and I will try my best to respond.

She Rejected Me: The 4 Main Reasons Why Women Reject Men!

In most cases, women reject men for a couple of different reasons and I am going to explain them here for you.

Reason #1: You’re too into her

Normally, when you are in the attraction stage of dating, you want to make sure that both of you have a mutual connection and are reciprocating and initiating at more or less the same level.

What ends up happening here is that a man over-initiates, does not become perceptive to her responses, and continues to try and make things work. This typically happens because you like her (of course) but you also want to get a result right away, so you don’t give her time and space, and this pushes her away. A woman also wants to feel like she has to work for something and when she sees that she has you in the bag, then it makes you less desirable. I’m not saying to not give women attention, but don’t rush through things and pace yourself. If this is you, don’t worry because I will tell you how to fix it further along with this blog.

Reason #2: She’s unavailable or just not ready.

She might be young or recently out of a divorce and she does not want to get into anything too serious. When this happens, almost 100% of the time a woman will voice this or show you through her actions that she does not want to settle down or commit. She might be looking to play the field and have fun with other men. If this is the case she might have rejected you because she saw that you were getting more serious than what she is currently looking for.

Reason #3: She sees you as just a friend

Another reason why you might be thinking, “She rejected me but still acts interested“ is that she feels that you are more of a friend than anything else. This could be for numerous reasons. Perhaps you weren’t direct and you did not take the lead but instead, you said “Yes” to her all the time. It did not give her any substance of who you truly. You were constantly trying to make her happy but forgot about yourself during this time.

This happens often when you put a woman on a pedestal and you look at her as the prize and forget you’re a prize as well. Women are attracted to the inner confidence of a man and I talk about how to get out of the friend zone anymore in my product here!

Reason #4: You don’t inspire her

Women want to be inspired by a man and true inspiration comes from motivation and positivity. She wants to learn from you so if your life just becomes all about her, how can she be motivated by that? Being aligned with a purpose and following and going after something that makes you happy is exactly what you have to do in order to get her to think of you as high-quality and different from everyone else.

She lead me on then rejected me: The 7 common reasons WHY…

Listen, women can sometimes be the most confusing creatures on the planet and sometimes we can even confuse ourselves! I want to be 100% clear about something here. If a woman rejected you and is leading you on and you continue to stick around, then you are already doing something wrong.

You must have a sense of self-respect for yourself and stand for how you are willing to be treated. The one thing I say to men constantly is if a woman is disrespectful or is playing with your emotions and finding joy in it, then it’s your fault for sticking around. Never in a million years would I suggest any man to be with a woman that does this to him.

Why? Because this is toxic behavior which leads to unhealthy relationships. There are women out there that will use you for attention and want you to stick around so they will breadcrumb you here and there and have you when they want you. So my question to you, is this a one-track relationship? If it’s on her track then I want you to follow the tips I’m going to give you in the next section.

How to get girls to like you instead of rejecting you.

Lastly, the only time I would encourage you to maybe stick around is when a woman is open with you that she wants to be with you but is going through a difficult time like studies, loss of a family member, child troubles, etc. When a woman is open with you on why she lead you on and then rejected you, then this is when you just need to be focused on you and show her that you will be ok with or without her instead of proving that you can help her through this rough time.

If she needs the support then support her but also show her that you will give her personal space and not become overbearing. A lot of times when we like or love someone we go into what I call “flight or fight” mode, and this is not where I want you to go. This means that you are trying to make the goal fast and you are frantically recovering, and trying to make up for everything and typically giving 100% of your attention that you lose yourself in the pursuit and this is what will kill attraction.

Paying attention to the root of her behavior…

Reason #1 Coming on way too strong.

You have to pace yourself and not put a woman on a pedestal. When you date a woman, you might think that she is the best option you’ve ever had, but women can feel this if you treat her as though you’ve never had a girl like her before. If this is you then I want you to back away and start letting her come to you more. You can go on other dates and show her that it’s not all about her at the moment and if not, I want you to dedicate some time to yourself and get back your sense of self. So she starts to see that she wants you! 

Reason #2: You aren’t authentic and you’re trying to be someone you’re not.

There are a lot of people teaching techniques that make you not authentic and you may think if you say some “perfect” line then you can get the girl. Completely false. Invest in the things that you are going to feel comfortable with, analyze yourself and then choose to learn from someone like me or someone else who preaches this. 🙂

Reason #3: She is dating someone else and entertaining another option right now.

Don’t focus on being jealous of the other guy and getting bent out of shape because things aren’t going your way. Stay grounded in your dignity if this happens and move forward. You don’t want to be looked at as a desperate man if she and the other guy don’t work out. If they don’t then you have a better opportunity because she saw your willingness to walk away and respect yourself.

Reason #4 She sees that you want more of a physical relationship than anything else.

Sometimes men lead with their sexual desires because this is what they’ve been taught. If you are dating a high-quality woman that wants the relationship then she is not going to take you seriously. If you get rejected because of this don’t lose confidence and show her something different.

Reason #5 She just not feeling it and she does not see you as an ideal partner.

Listen, we aren’t meant to be everyone’s cup of tea and if we build expectations to be everyone’s ideal partner, then we start to take personal offense to every rejection. If you let go of expectations then you will deliver more quality and abundance to the attraction stage and the relationship. Sometimes girls just don’t feel it. It’s the same for men, sometimes you just don’t feel it with a woman.

Reason #6 You are not forming an emotional connection.

You are not having any depth in the conversations and you do not form any other connection. No emotional connection and no physical connection. Women decide when they want to sleep with you or how they feel about you based on how you make them feel. Lucky for you I have an escalation cheat sheet and a manual of 20 questions to ask women to get to know her true self.

Reason #7 You’re just a friend!

You have not figured out how to master the dynamics when it comes to pursuing women. Women end up seeing men as a friend when he does not stick out from the other men. He doesn’t have his own opinion, he’s too nice, there is no challenge, and he is always doing everything the woman wants and not showing her that he is ok with her or ok without her. Basically, this happens when he is in demand and not confident with his purpose. If these ring a bell with you I highly encourage you to invest in my Friend Zone No More Product!

Should I ignore her after she rejected me

Here’s the thing, guys. There are plenty of scenarios where a woman will reject you and still try to get attention from you and you’re left thinking, “Should I ignore her?” If you’re in a situation where you guys work together or perhaps go to the same gym, you may not be able to ignore her, so the key here is to show her that you are not going to play her games! You have to show her that if she rejected you, you lost no sleep over it and you couldn’t really care less. This is the inner confidence that I talk about a lot! When a woman rejects you and you show her that you’re mad, hurt, or disappointed then you gave up your sense of control and no one can give their sense of control away unless they choose to. Listen, you may like this girl and think she’s perfect but if you want a chance with her, then you have to make sure you do not give up your sense of control and really master your attraction skills when it comes to trying to re-attract her.

Part of re-attraction is understanding that you are not attached to an outcome and we are not obsessing over one desire. Yes, I know that this can be painful to hear but this is the truth. When we start getting attached to someone then we are preventing our best selves from showing up. I want you to have the mindset that if it does not work out, then it is what it is. This is what will attract a woman back. You might be thinking… well, if I don’t pay attention to her she will go out and find another guy. My response is always then she didn’t really like you in the first place and you can’t make water and oil fit. Also, when people create distance, it’s natural to think about and want something that we do not have.

If any of these tips resonated with you, I encourage you to follow some of the tips that I have talked on how to move forward. Once this girl starts coming back, I want you to pace yourself and attract her back with the right traits that you can showcase since you have no expectations of a specific outcome. This woman will now see that she also has to work for something.

If this woman continues to reject you and you keep trying, then it’s time to stop and slowly move on when you are ready. Don’t continue to pour salt on a wound that isn’t healed if you know what I mean.

Your Coach,

Apollonia Ponti